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Review: Diva Cup

When I use my Diva Cup, I emerge from the bathroom wanting to spread the gospel of the menstrual cup to anyone within a mile radius.

Me holding the Diva Cup silicone menstrual cup, with appropriately blood-colored polish on my fingernails.

The Diva Cup is the greatest thing I’ve put in my vagina that has not resulted in orgasm.

Whenever I use it, I emerge from the bathroom wanting to spread the gospel of the menstrual cup to anyone within a half mile radius. One time I excitedly gushed to my mom about them in Target.

I don’t care that I’m 10 years behind the times. I don’t care at all. My life is better now, and everything that came before has just faded away.

If you’re new to menstrual cups, here’s the deal: they are reusable1 silicone (usually) bell-shaped receptacles that sit in the vagina, up against the cervix, to catch menstrual blood. They vary in size, texture, rigidity, stem length, and how much the company relies on traditionally feminine bullshit to sell their product. To insert, you fold the cup and slide it in your vagina, rotating the base until the cup pops open against your cervix to form a seal. When you’re ready to empty it, you break the seal by squeezing the sides of the cup, then carefully extract it from your vagina and dump out the product of your loins.

The only reason I got a Diva Cup instead of frantically researching every other option was because I was able to borrow my friend’s Diva Cup first. She’s the kind of person who once bled so heavily it went down into her socks, so, I was treading on sacred ground. And I loved it. I loved the Diva Cup and immediately ordered one for myself.

Whenever I use it, I emerge from the bathroom wanting to spread the gospel of the menstrual cup to anyone within a half mile radius. One time I excitedly gushed to my mom about them in Target.

I was glad that the first menstrual cup I tried worked well for me, and I didn’t want to jinx it by ordering a different brand. The Diva Cup’s rah-rah girl-power dELiA*s throwback pink-and-flowery-everything mantra is disgusting and I find the founders’ pink jackets deeply offensive, but at least the cup itself is void of gendered assumptions.

It was pretty easy to get the hang of the Diva Cup. I’m lucky, I think — some people have difficulty achieving a seal, struggle with removal, or feel awkwardly jabbed by the cup’s stem. Some need a different cup since the Diva Cup is one of the longer cups on the scene. For me, the learning period was swift and painless. I wore panty liners (and still do when I’m worried), but never had more than a few stray dribbles of blood. Inserting it was only challenging when my thumb was sore: from burning it on my mug warmer, from my cat scratching me when I tried to put nail caps on him, from biting my nail too short.

I will admit there are things about my life that make using the Diva Cup exceptionally easy. Like that I work from home and my sink is within tossing distance of my toilet. And that I don’t bleed so much that the cup needs to be emptied more than once a day. And that blood fascinates rather than repels me.

Zealous menstrual cup proponents sometimes insist that cups aren’t messy at all. But the Diva Cup is messy. Dumping it into the toilet, carefully wiping it off with toilet paper, re-inserting it, and wiping excess blood from my fingers and vulva… is messy. Because blood oozing from a vagina is fucking messy. Welcome to reality and earth. Not everything needs to be sanitized for our protection.

Me holding the Diva Cup silicone menstrual cup, with appropriately blood-colored polish on my fingernails.

Personally, I love the visceral sight of my blood, and I take pleasure in pouring it out in the shower. It’s easy to just toss a used tampon or pad, but the cup invites me to appreciate the sheer amount of gore that my body produces. I’m much more aware of changes in color, consistency, and amount — from the bright red, runny blood to the viscous dark snotty stuff.

Ever since I got my birth control implant slut stick, my bleeding has been irregular. The Diva Cup makes it tolerable: I get the telltale cramps, wander to the bathroom to insert my Diva Cup, and promptly forget about it. Hours later I remember to check it, and sure enough, it is ripe with blood.

I routinely forget I’m even on my period when I’m wearing the Diva Cup — that’s how comfortable it is. One time I forgot it was inserted and started using a dildo and it even halfway worked. It didn’t jam into me with pain; it just felt like my vagina ended sooner.

The Diva Cup can be remarkably accommodating. I’ve kept it in while my partner inserted a couple fingers above it. I’ve used it with the small bulb of the Feeldoe More inside of me, although it did leak a little from the movement. I can wear it with the We-Vibe 4 with no issues whatsoever.

I’ve learned to follow my intuition with the Diva Cup, though, because whenever I disregard it, bad things happen. Like that time I hadn’t emptied the cup recently but still thought I could insert the NobEssence Dare in addition. When I pulled out the Dare, I accidentally tipped the cup and blood promptly began dripping into my pajama pants, underwear, and new bathroom rug. A+, me.

But really, I’ve realized, rotating the cup until it pops completely open against my cervix is key to achieving a maximum seal.

It’s easy to just toss a used tampon or pad, but the cup invites me to appreciate the sheer amount of gore that my body produces.

Another time, I got cocky and decided to wear my best cutest underwear. Something felt off as I drove to my girlfriend’s place, but I figured I was just cramping. Turns out, the cup was not inserted correctly and I had bled all over my underwear. No matter how much you want to impress your girlfriend, cute underwear is no longer cute when you have to scrub it in the sink pre-fuck.

Even my subconscious knows that the cup can sabotage me if given the chance. I once had a dream I was about to do a porn scene, but true to life, I had to take out my Diva Cup first. Well, of course, it spilled blood all over everything. Subsequently, the porn scene never happened and I got lost in a labyrinthian spa. So. Don’t tempt fate with the Diva Cup. It knows.

The Diva Cup does stain and develop a smell over time, but I soak it overnight in hydrogen peroxide and the next day it’s good as new. I know the company advocates boiling only, but the company also says shit like “yes, you wear the Diva Cup in ‘there,’ in your vagina… but we promise, it is not as scary as it sounds.” Boiling doesn’t do jack shit to quell the color or the smell — hydrogen peroxide does.

If you’re not comfortable removing and placing things in your vagina, which sadly would’ve been me 10 years ago, menstrual cups are not for you. If you can’t handle the sight or smell of blood, they’re not for you. If you’re an extremely busy businessperson with no time for the folly of emptying a cup mid-day in the office bathroom, they might not fit your lifestyle.

But if you’re a person who menstruates and have ever felt displeased with the experience of tampons or pads… you need a menstrual cup.

It would hardly be fair for me to proclaim that the Diva Cup is the best menstrual cup out there, or to promise that all vagina-havers would prefer it over other brands. But this thing has legitimately changed my life — and it only cost me $28. The only way the Diva Cup could be better would be if it paid me every month for all the menstrual products I no longer have to buy.

  1. There is a disposable menstrual product called the Instead Softcup/Flex Softdisc, but in my experience and from what I’ve heard from others, it’s not very comfortable. Also, why waste money on disposable menstrual cups when you can get one that lasts for years?

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  1. I feel bad for the people who for whatever reason can’t use a menstrual cup, because it’s got to be the worst thing to hear it recommended and praised to high heaven everywhere. But I can’t help it- if someone hasn’t heard of or tried one, I just *have* to talk about it. They revolutionized my period for me, especially because I don’t care for tampons. No more pads, no more stained underwear, no more mess.

  2. Coincidentally, I just bought a Diva Cup myself a week or two ago. I’ve only used it once when I was baaaarely spotting, and it was so little I normally wouldn’t have even bothered with anything, but to be honest I was just excited to try it out. I had a fairly easy time, too. I’m super excited for when I’m actually menstruating. But mostly I’m excited to not have to use fucking pads or tampons anymore. Menstrual cups are a reason to keep breathing.

  3. I went menstrual cup only a few months ago and YES it’s changed my life and I will never stop singing the praises of it. I have stopped feeling gross and smelly during my period, and also the horrid reactions my delicate as fuck skin had to pads (especially the scented ones!! Eurrrrgghh). My only problem is that since I’m far from a heavy bleeder, I get lazy and leave it in for whole days…

    My anxiety dreams have updated themsrlves to include ones where I’m far away from home and my period starts suddenly and *I don’t have my cup with me*! Quelle horreur!!

  4. I actually use the available-in-drugstores “Instead softcup” thing, which is flatter than a Diva Cup (looks a lot like a diaphragm) and have very similar raves to give (including the irregular periods from slut stick! This thing makes that livable!) I buy the ‘reusable’ ones and one cup lasts me a whole period, though you can clean em up and save em for the next if you like.

    The reason I mention this, beyond adding range to your menstrual cup cheering, is…I use dildoes allll the time with the softcup, and beyond causing a little blood mess from flexing the edges if it’s full, I have no trouble — it’s never caught or pulled or anything, and doesn’t really take up much room — in fact, I have PIV sex with it in pretty often, and it usually doesn’t make a blood mess. So another good option!

  5. I love my Diva Cup so much that I was almost, almost sad when I got my IUD and stopped having periods altogether.

  6. I am completely in love with my Lunette cup, but it’s not for everyone. My sister experienced some pain trying to use it, so it got sterilized and given to a friend who wanted to try it. I use a NuvaRing, and when both are in, it feels like my vagina is too “full” in an unaroused state, but that doesn’t always happen. I happened to get the hang of it super easy, I’ve never had a leak, and the Lunette is perfect for my low-down, cry-baby of a cervix. The most often I change it is every 8 hours on my heaviest day, but it’s not even full when I do that. Other than that, it stays in for 12 hours.

  7. Hilarious timing, I JUST got my first Mooncup yesterday, still working on the learning process and figuring out how much to shorten the stem, but over it’s far more comfortable then tampons could possibly be.

  8. My acquisition of a cup was based on comfort – pads are uncomfortable in the predictable way, but for me tampons are also massively annoying. I’m not one of those women who forgets they’re there. Tampons feel dry and press against my cervix quite obnoxiously. My cup instead sits happily around my cervix and the only clue it’s in there is the increased urge to pee now and then. I should also sit down sometime and calculate how much money the damn thing has saved me each month.

    And yes, cups are messy as hell. Thank you for being the only other person I’ve seen admit this. I never understood why women seem to think that menstrual “blood” is something toxic to touch. If it’s not damaging your vagina, it certainly won’t hurt your fingers.

  9. I’m sadly one of those people for whom the menstrual cup does not work. I tried a Shecup which is a little smaller than the Diva and no matter what I did it was uncomfortable to the point of bordering on being painful. I’d feel for my cervex to make sure it was in the cup, inserted while sitting, standing, one leg propped up, in the shower, you name it. I certainly never could forget I had it in me, it wouldn’t let me forget! Also no matter how far up I pushed it, it would always settle down to where the very bottom of it ever so slightly protruded from my vagina and caused irritation after only a couple of hours wear and that irritation made reinserting it after emptying even less pleasant. I kept trying it with the hopes of it just being a case of getting used to a new method but no luck. I also could never get the hang of efficiently changing it without having access to a private bathroom and plenty of time. At the time I had an extremely heavy period with lots of clotting, could fill a cup in less than 2 hours, and often experienced leaking which caused me to have to wear a heavy panty liner along with the cup anyway so I just gave up on it. Always Infinity overnight pads have been a godsend for me. I rarely have accidents when I use them, can go a full 4 hours before I have to change them and they don’t eat my skin. I have a lot of the same problems with tampons as I do with the cup so unfortunately pads are my only option.

    All that said I’m glad it works so well for so many other people! Anything that can make anyone’s period less shitty is awesome in my book.

  10. Yes! I’ve been using Divacups for 7 years, since I was in high school and had nightmarish periods. Usually I can just insert it in the morning and forget about it until the afternoon. In school, I’d just wait until I got home to empty it. Not so with tampons, which always ALWAYS leaked for me. The Divacup doesn’t dry your vagina out like tampons sometimes do, either.

    And yeah…it’s definitely possible for my girlfriend to slip her fingers into my vagina, in front of the cup, and rub my G spot with no bloody mess.

  11. Oh, and I cut the stem off completely, otherwise it pokes. Not a problem since I can easily grab the bottom of the cup, thanks to its ridges.

  12. I love my Diva Cup! (Although, since I got an IUD, I don’t need to wear it anymore…) I had to cut off the stem, since my vagina is too short to wear it comfortably, and the stem would chafe my labia. However, cutting the stem and flipping it inside out made it work perfectly with my body. I’ve never found the cup that messy, but then, I also enjoy blood—I am perhaps not the best judge of ‘messy’ in this case!

    Weirdly, I got a rip in my old one after about 3-4 years of use. I think this might have been an anomaly.

  13. I’ve been using menstrual cups for the last 3 years. I only wish I’d known about them long ago – they’re superior in every way to disposable products. (May I just add, cloth menstrual pads are also awesome, and the smaller/lighter ones [“liners”] are excellent backup for those times when you may be at risk of leakage.)

    My favourite cup is the MeLuna cup, which comes in various firmnesses, shapes and sizes. Diva is certainly good but I find that because the holes are so tiny, the suction makes it harder for me to remove smoothly. However, Diva IS the only cup I know of that has measuring lines to tell you what your menstrual volume is. This would be invaluable info for your doctor if, say, you’re experiencing excessively heavy periods that might imply a possible health concern.

    Actually, my only criticism of Diva is that they market the shorter of their 2 cups for younger women who haven’t given birth, and the longer for older women who have. It’s ludicrous to imply that cup length and capacity have anything to do with age. A larger cup is more useful if you have a low-hanging cervix and/or heavy periods. Some people may have shorter vaginas and may benefit from a shorter cup, but it doesn’t follow that they’re younger.

    Lastly, I’m perimenopausal and my periods are all over the place these days – mostly light, but every so often I have a “gusher”. When that happens it’s good to know I’ve got a cup in place that can handle it. I wish more perimenopausal folks in particular knew what a fantastic resource menstrual cups are. Seriously, these things are a gift to anyone with a period.

    P.S. I don’t have a problem with messiness. Maybe it’s a matter of refining one’s technique? The trick is to tilt the cup forward as you remove it, so that the liquid in it stays level – and also to bring some toilet paper underneath with the other hand to catch any stray drops.

    P.P.S. The community blog Menstrual Cups on Livejournal ( was essential reading for me in the early days. Great advice and info-swapping on lots of different cups.

  14. I got the ladycup (GOD I hate that name) after an all-nighter of obsessive research during which I started out revolted, and ended up begging my mom to buy me one. (I was 17.) I’m 22 now, and I can’t imagine ever using a tampon or pad again.
    I’m going to second the lazy people in the comments. I have left mine in for multiple days, since my flow is so light. I trimmed a bit off the stem, and I can’t feel it at all once it’s in. The learning process was a bit tough for me. It can be difficult to break the suction, and scary to imagine it just being stuck there. But it’s 1000% worth it.

  15. I like the softcups too, especially because they can be kept in during sex and such, but I find that they’re way more likely to leak than a regular menstrual cup, and I’ve even had them get hooked on a penis/dildo during sex a few times, and come partially out, which can be messy. I have a really light flow, but I doubt people with heavy flows would find them useful for long term use. Idk though.

  16. Hi! I feel your pain girl, but I come to recomend you the softest kind of cup there is in the market. The Meluna cup, this german brand has 3 softness you can choose from. The softest, classic and sport (and also you can choose from diferent sizes, S, M and L, even they came up with one even smaller for short vaginas). I can say I have the classic (M) and the softest (S) and the latest makes wonders for me, it’s so soft it doesn’t immediately pops open inside, you have to help it with your finger a little but then it’s like you’re wearing nothing. Give it a think, they have lots of people who can help you decide if it’s good for you, but I’m telling you, I have a very sensitive vagina and it works wonders for me 😉

  17. “the cup invites me to appreciate the sheer amount of gore that my body produces”
    yessss! it really is incredible.

    Thanks for the tip about hydrogen peroxide! I started using the diva cup this past year and love it!

  18. My favorite thing about my menstrual cup (I use a Femmecup) is that it has measurement lines on the side, so I can get a pretty accurate approximation of how much I bleed. I now know that I bleed about a shot glass of blood a day the first few days of my period! Horrifying and fascinating!

  19. I fucking love my Diva Cup. I’m going to have to try hydrogen peroxide, because mine is stained a bit. Do you ever have trouble with the tiny little holes under the top lip? Because mine look kind of gross despite thorough and frequent cleaning and boiling.

  20. I’ve actually got a really heavy flow (for the first two days) and I adore the softcup. I’ve actually found that I can sort of… kegel and empty the cup hands-free, which is a gods-send in public bathrooms.

  21. Does anyone else get periods on their IUD? I do, and I had been using the softcup so I could have sex on my period (I’m suuuuper weird about messiness), I occasionally have discomfort when removing them though as the seal tugs on my IUD.

    Anyone else have this? Anyone?

  22. I clean my Diva Cup with silicone toy cleaner and use the blunt end of a needle to clean out the little holes, whether it looks like it needs it or not. Also, never let it dry with blood on it. When I take it out, I clean it immediately and let it air dry. I’ve had it for a couple years and it’s not stained yet.

  23. I’m so happy to see you reviewing these! Tampons literally tore up my vagina after years of use, so I’m a huge proponent of healthier and renewable (and cheaper!) menstrual solutions.

    I’ve tried the softcup and they just didn’t work for me – my cervix is in a weird place and they didn’t seal right. I’d love to try the diva cup, but for now I’m happily using menstrual sponges. For all the commenters who found that a cup doesn’t work for their vagina, I highly recommend these things. They’re soft, unbleached, renewable sea sponges that mold to the shape of your vagina and are highly absorbant. Like cups there is some mess involved, but like Epiphora I love that it gives me visceral feedback on the state of my period.

    Also, my phone knows your name and suggests it now Epiphora. Success!

  24. There was that one incident where I attempted to empty my menstrual cup and dropped it on the floor on the way to the sink. That’s one way to splatter blood all over a room in your house.

    No mention that Diva Cup is one of the firmer models that aren’t ideal for a majority of women, though? You have a lot of readers, a small link outsourcing this information isn’t quite enough.

  25. My periods have NEVER quit since I got my IUD. I got Paragard and it’s non-hormonal, so it’s not guaranteed that your period will go away when you get it. I bled for like three weeks, heavily, after insertion, and my periods now vary in severity (which is better than constantly being the worst thing in the world) and are still irregular.

    My IUD is actually the reason I stopped using my DivaCup. My fingers aren’t long enough to break the seal of the cup and so the suction tugs on my IUD. A friend who got her IUD at Planned Parenthood said they warned her about it tugging her IUD out if you aren’t careful, so I stopped using mine. I’m tempted to say “screw it” and try to reach in further though, because I desperately miss using a cup. Tampons are the worst and sponges aren’t bad, but they aren’t nearly as glorious as the cup.

  26. I love love LOVED my DivaCup, but I haven’t used it in years (sob) because Planned Parenthood said there was a possibility that not breaking the suction could tug an IUD out of the cervix, and my stubby little baby fingers don’t reach far enough inside my vagina to break the suction. I’m kind of tempted to revisit it and see if I can reach further in, because I desperately miss my cup and everything else I’ve used is inferior. MENSTRUAL CUP CULT FOR LIFE.

  27. I got the diva cup after my girlfriend told me about how great it works for her. She has PCOS and when she does have her period it’s usually really heavy and never predictable. The diva cup has helped her become more comfortable with her body and with her periods. For me it’s just super damn convenient. I’m on the pill so my periods are fairly regular and never so heavy I have to empty it more than first thing in the morning and right before bed. Makes it so much easier than secreting a tampon on my person through the hallways of my work to go to the bathroom. It IS messy, definitely, but I think it’s cool as hell.

    Thanks for the tip about the hydrogen peroxide! I was wondering how to get mine super clean again.

  28. It’s great to hear your opinion on the Diva Cup. I have been using mine for about six years, and can’t even approximate how much money it has saved me.

    All of my adult life has been plagued with extremely heavy periods, complete with nausea, terrible cramps, achy thighs, the whole deal. Typically I bleed for a solid seven days, and would need to wear an overnight pad in addition to a super plus tampon, which I would have to change every two or three hours. That adds up quickly, and pads & tampons are not cheap.

    I found out about the Diva Cup in a kinky female group on Fetlife years ago and thought I should really give it a shot. Absolutely one of the best purchases I have ever made. The only issue I have had with it was the stem. I promptly removed mine, and all is well. I still bleed pretty heavily, and emptying the cup is definitely messy sometimes. I keep a towel on the floor in front on my toilet, and I use a niltrile glove on one hand to keep my nails from getting gunky, and honestly, have never risked emptying it in a public restroom. I still wear a backup pad on occasion, and can actually feel internally when the cup is full, which is helpful.

    Thanks for mentioning your fascination with your blood, too. I’ve always wondered wtf was going on with me, and somehow being able to see the quantity and quality of my menstrual flow eases my mind a little. It doesn’t gross me out at all, but for sure, it can be messy. I use peroxide to freshen mine up as well.

    Also, I can masturbate with the Tantus Mikey with my Diva Cup in, but you better believe I have plenty of protection for the bed first. I’ve had sex with the Softcup in and found that it worked very well. My partner could just barely feel the ring. We’ve never tried it with the Diva Cup because I’m pretty certain neither of us would enjoy that.

  29. Hey, it sounds like the diva cup was too short for you. The body length of the diva cup in both sizes is 57mm. I checked the size charts, and the only ones longer are the Luv Ur Body cup which is 62 mm, and the two sizes of Lily cup which are 77 and 82mm in the small and large sizes respectively. I hope that helps if you’re interested in getting another cup.

  30. I have to say I love my Meluna cup. I’m actually in the market for getting one that works a little better for me, since the medium size and classic stiffness are too long and firm for me most if the time, but it’s still great. I will say this much on the diva cup, it’s actually one of the longest and stiffest cups on the market. It probably isn’t the best choice for a first cup unless you know that your cervix hangs out fairly deep during your cycle. Anyone who is looking into getting one should check out and for sizes before buying along with the community you linked for info on how to determine what size they might need.

  31. So I have an IUD (paragard) and I’ve heard that using menstrual cups can dislodge your IUD or cause discomfort if you have one. Does anyone have any info on this? I’ve been looking at Diva Cups for AGES and would love to try them but I’m a bit nervous because of my IUD.

  32. I used a Diva Cup for many years, but have recently shifted to the Intimina Lily Cup – I adore how it is collapsible when not in use 🙂

    In both cases I’ve had to trim the end, but I’ve had absolutely no issues otherwise.

    xx Dee

  33. I used a divacup for a little while with an iud, and was just told to be more gentle when breaking the seal-it’s that suction that can cause issues apparently. I stopped using it when my iud slipped too low though, and really thought I was at fault for using a divacup… until my second iud dislodged too, no divacup involved. So,boo uterus? At least now I can use my cup again.

  34. Yesss menstrual cups! Never going back, man, never. I never got tampons to work for me: they would sit alongside my cervix, not soaking up anything, and would be dry as fuck and terrible to remove. I found pads just irritated my skin and of course would make me feel smelly and gross and just horrid.

    I initially got my Diva Cup about 6 years ago, but never managed to get it to work. Plus, my periods were really few and far between so I kind of gave up. I finally managed to use it properly last year and holy shitballs, was it great! It took a little while to get used to, but the next period, I tried to use pads again and I just couldn’t. Fuck that shit.

    It’s helped me also feel more comfortable with my period. From the very first time I got it, I have hated it, and felt literally ill and alienated from my body. I constantly wished I would just dry up (and happened to, thanks to PCOS), but now I’m regular and the cup has made me a lot more able to deal with things. I never need to change it at work, or carry extras, and no more waking up with blood encrusted underwear. SUCCESS!

    One thing to note is that I found the Diva Cup impossible to use with an intact hymen. It just would not go in, and mine was thick so it wouldn’t tear. Maybe the more pliable cups are better for this.

  35. I use a very tiny brush for cleaning out the holes. The Droll Yankees Hummingbird Feeder (!!!) cleaning brushes work like a charm. You can often find them (or other brushes like them) at garden stores 🙂

  36. I really hope no one led you to believe your periods would stop with a Paragard. It’s not something IUDs do by nature of being IUDs, it’s something the hormonal ones do because, hormones. Before I got my Paragard I was constantly warned that my periods would probably be heavier, which they are.

    My IUD is the thing that scares me away from menstrual cups. I tried the MoonCup once and had some seal-breaking difficulty which immediately sent me into a “I’m going to dislodge my IUD” panic. I use sponges but I’m so curious…

  37. I reviewed the DivaCup ( last year, and it gives me the warm-fuzzies that you love it, too. I don’t know what I was doing that kept me from trying a menstrual cup way sooner. I tell female friends and family members and even co-workers about the DivaCup whenever I get the chance. If I ever have a daughter, I will make sure she knows she has options. When mine became discolored, I boiled it. I haven’t noticed an odor, but I can confirm that boiling did nothing to remove the discoloration. I doubt I’ll bother next time. The next period solution I’m trying is Jade & Pearl sea sponge tampons. I’ve only used them once, but I’m already impressed. Is it weird that I’m a little excited for my next period because I want to use them again?

  38. This looks LIFE CHANGING!! — Do you happen to know if it would work well with the NuvaRing? (Like, at the end of your period when you’re still bleeding, but have to re-insert the ring?) Either way, I’m totally sold!

  39. I do love menstrual cups on my days off and they ate definitely the most comfortable thing for sleeping or long bus trips. However, they are basically impossible to use safely if you work in trades or regularly get your hands dirty. Your hands have to be so much cleaner to remove the cup than they do with applicator tampons, and the only way to get mine clean enough to dig in my vag is to use lanolin or solvent hand cleaners, which I also do not want in or around my vagina.

    Not knocking your review or the product, I just never see this mentioned as a drawback of the cup (and I think it has a lot to do with class and prescriptive gender roles)

  40. No problem. I worried about not being able to create a seal with the NuvaRing in, but that hasn’t been a problem. Just put the ring in first, then the cup.

  41. I’ve used a Diva Cup with a NuvaRing at the same time before and had no issues. Just keep an eye out in case the cup catches on the ring and pulls it out, too. Which I think only ever happened to me once?

  42. I love my Diva Cup, but I think possibly due to quirks of my anatomy (I have a slightly tilted uterus, which makes my vag a little more shallow than most) I don’t always get a perfect seal. And sometimes, especially during the first few very heavy days of my period, it abruptly starts leaking, so I often back it up with a pad.

    It is still so much better than trying to mess with pads alone, or tampons. Even with super plus tampons I used to have to replace every 20-30 minutes on my heaviest days. The Diva Cup is (for me anyway) not quite the holy grail of menstrual products that it is for some people, but it’s still SO MUCH better than disposable products.

  43. I love my Diva cup and think you’ve covered just about everything here. It totally freed me from spills, once I got the hang of it, although I do find it leaks a little more over the first few days of my period and not at all towards the end. I bought both sizes because I’m around 30 and wasn’t sure. The smaller one fits me and works best inserted folded in half; the larger one doesn’t work as well, caused cramping, and worked better with a punch-down fold. Mine needs to be doused in hydrogen peroxide – thanks for the tip!

  44. When I got my cup, it was a freaking epiphany. I don’t have periods anymore since I got my Mirena, but anytime someone mentions tampons, I’m like, “HAVE YOU HEARD THE GOOD NEWS?” I was nervous at first about getting up close and personal with my menstrual gunk and thought I’d just drop it in the toilet and try not to look, but by the second month, I was analyzing every cupful, because it was FASCINATING! My best cup story? Got up one morning and went to the bathroom to change my cup. It was slippery and super-full, and I ended up with menstrual blood dripping clear down to my elbow. No big. Until I waddled over to the sink to rinse it out and DISCOVERED THEY HAD SHUT OFF OUR WATER! I ended up cleaning up as best I could with toilet paper and then using a Lysol wipe on my arm. ~Classy.

  45. I want to get a menstrual cup eventually. For now, I use Luna Pads (cloth pads). Diva Cup’s website is terrible. It’s highly gendered and does not correctly identify the vulva (or, as Diva Cup erroneously states “the parts of the vagina”). I’ll have to take a look at what other menstrual product companies there are.

  46. Reading all these testimonials makes me wish I was younger and had a reason to check this out. It sounds pretty wonderful.

  47. I’ve been lusting after a cup for a couple of years, but say hello to teenagehood without pocket money and with extremely demanding school programme making a part-time job impossible instead, and so I’ve only gotten one recently — a Meluna from Germany (European here), made of medical-grade TPE, in medium size, classic firmness, and an awesome blue colour. I’ve just finished my first period using it, and I actually said “FUCK YES” to myself when I started reading your review, because THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL NOW AND I WANT TO SCREAM ABOUT THE AWESOMENESS OF CUPS FROM THE ROOFTOPS.

    I’m a relatively heavy bleeder on my first two days (maxi pad change every three hours? Check. Bleeding through pad and underwear and pants and sheet during sleep, despite 7+ years of thrilling experience in spewing forth blood every month or so? Totally check.), then a relatively sparse bleeder for the following days. I would be unable to wear “feel dry” pads with a plasticky layer facing the vulva, due to irritation, so I also frequently found myself wondering how many not-that-good bacteria are proliferating in that unsanitized pad slowly (or not) dampening with my nutrient-rich blood, touching my vulva at any point in time… You get the picture.

    Now that I’ve finally gotten a cup, I feel more free and comfortable and safe than ever (well, after getting my periods). I practiced the insertion a bit on a ‘dry run’, but it’s been a breeze (if I have problems getting the cup to open, I rinse it with cold water to stiffen the material a bit more). I was a little worried about pressure on my bladder, but I don’t feel the cup at all, and to be honest forget about it most of the time. I wore pads as an insurance, but I haven’t leaked a single time, and later just did away with liners.

    There was barely anything on the pads. Not once did I stain my underwear, clothes, or sheets. I want to underline how incredible this is for me: NEVER before have I gone through my period without having to wash at least three items of clothing (does it mean I’m bad at ‘managing’ my menstruation?). As a bonus for my curious self, I finally got to see exactly how much blood I’m producing on a given day and what consistency and how much endometrium I can discern and it is absolutely FASCINATING and GLORIOUS to the scientifically-minded and the feminine side of me, respectively.

    I’ve even emptied and washed the cup several times in my school’s bathroom — where the sinks are separate from the stalls, so I would leave the stall to rinse the cup in the sink (I’m a clutz who has trouble maneuvreing pants, cup, and toilet paper at the same time without making the place look like a murder scene with me as the culprit) — and haven’t had issues. If anyone got freaked with seeing blood being rinsed away in the sink, they didn’t say anything.

    Dear people, Epiphora’s words are like gospel. If you’re in any way unsatisfied with disposables, while being relatively comfy with your vagina and blood, and/or want to save cash (another good reason for me!), and/or just want to see what’s this hype about, PLEASE get yourselves a menstrual cup, then come back and tell us how your experience has been! 🙂

  48. As cryingisay writes, if you’d like to try a cup again, perhaps a Meluna could work for you. Meluna soft isn’t much softer in comparison to SheCup, but it’s still a bit. Looking at measurements, SheCup has the same diameter as a large Meluna (44mm); small and medium Melunas are, obviously, smaller, and perhaps could work for you. All but the XL Melunas are shorter, you can get them without a stem (ie. just grip rings), and even flip them ‘inside out’ which will shorten them another little bit (you lose the grip rings, though, so the cup will be more slippery). Finally, they can hold more blood (small Meluna has 6ml more capacity than a SheCup; but the small and medium Shorty versions of Meluna hold less than a SheCup, here’s a handy chart ). The choice is all yours, but this might be an option 🙂

  49. Thank you 😀


  50. I’ve never been as excited for my period as when I was about to try out my cup. Hope you’ll have an awesome run with your cup! 🙂

  51. Just a little note, the sizing on menstrualcupinfo is sometimes a little off — it hasn’t been updated in a while, and gives wrong info for more recently redesigned cups. It’s a great resource otherwise about menstrual cups though. I’d also recommend Precious Stars Pads channel on YouTube, where Bree makes comparisons between various brands and sizes, and gives loads of tips on using both menstrual cups and cloth pads.

  52. I have tried several cups but due to the issue I had with getting them out, I knew I wanted one with a ring or at least a nubbed stem. I just bought the Femmy Cycle and am in LOVE!!! I bought it in the teen size and it was perfect.

  53. So I’ve had one of these things for three years, and I’ve been boiling it, which is a pain in the ass and smells disgusting and puts me off using one of my pots for rice. I hadn’t realized that hydrogen peroxide would get rid of the awful smell that’s built up.

    Brb soaking diva cup.

  54. I have been thinking about getting one of these for a while and since my vagina has never been led astray by you I have taken the leap 😀

  55. Believe it or not, I first used a menstrual cup 50 years ago, when I was 21. My father, a gynecologist, has received some samples of this odd, rubber thing, and he gave me one. I liked it except for two problems: (1) if I didn’t empty it often enough, it spilled when I squeezed the edges to remove it; (2) how do you wash it in a public restroom? Trying to empty and reinsert it without washing it was a big mess.) Since I spent most of my day on the go, using public restrooms, I gave up on it except for light flow days.

    Then as it aged, it got smelly and developed cracks — it was made of rubber in those days — and I gave up on it. I’m happy to learn that it’s now made of silicone and you’re all loving it! (I no longer have any need for anything menstrual, one of the big benefits of being my age!)

  56. I’ve got this weird squick with inserting fingers — well, my own — into my vagina. I don’t even check my IUD like I should. (i know!), so I don’t feel like I would want to routinely use a menstrual cup, but damn if I don’t want to try one out!

  57. Wasn’t planning on it. Everything I said still stands. It’s still my favorite harness. However, Aerie is working on their own review of it.


    I started using a menstrual cup about 7 months ago, and like you, it has changed my life. It has also saved my wallet, and for more than just the cost of disposables. It’s been a huge part of my goodbye to regular UTIs and the co-pays and antibiotics (and sometimes therapy sessions) that come with it.

    Four years ago, I got a UTI and didn’t know it. I had no pain with urination, no symptoms, no nothing, except I also had a sinus infection. So when I got a fever, and had body aches, and was super sleepy, the docs at the student center just kept upping my antibiotics for the sinus infection. Fast forward a month and a half, and I finally had flank pain and blood in my urine (still no pain with urination?? wtf??) so the docs finally took a urine sample, and I had a kidney infection. I was on the verge of needing IV antibiotics for a blood infection. I was put on the strongest recommended dose of ciprofloxacin, which is what they use for anthrax poisoning and kills half the shit in your body, including connective tissues or some crazy shit. After the cipro, I had no immune system, and I got mono, which lasted for months. And then I kept getting UTIs, more and more frequently. And I was severely depressed, because it all fucked with my ability to actually do anything productive.

    Since then, I’ve been battling depression and getting a UTI nearly every month after my period, like clockwork. I guess your body becomes more susceptible to UTIs the more you have them, or something, according to my doc. I tried only using pads (no dice). I tried only using tampons (also no dice). My doctor had no recommendations except “wash your hands” (….), “wipe front to back” (thanks but I’m not 5?), and a clockwork prescription of Bactrim, which was getting less and less effective, as antibiotics love to do.

    A friend of mine in the local kink community told me about her menstrual cup, and I immediately got online and did days’ worth of research about it. I figured out that my vag is too small for a lot of cups, then I ordered a Meluna for a starter and helped crowd-fund the Lily Compact.

    I haven’t had a single UTI since I started using the menstrual cup. None of that nasty junk, no plastic or chemicals or festering bacterial sludge, ever goes near my vag anymore. And previously, when I had my period, my pelvic bone would ache like it was bruised. I now know that that bone-deep ache was my body’s reaction to the chemicals in the disposables. I even switched to cloth panty liners as back-up on my heavy days to avoid that weird blue shit they always put in the disposables. My period is lighter, less painful, and shorter in duration than it’s been in my entire life.

    My only gripe with my Meluna was that it was getting discolored, so your hydrogen peroxide trick was THE BEST. I broke out the bottle my sisters used for their sports injuries and it fixed it nearly immediately. You are an actual angel!!!

    In summary: if you have a shedding uterus, at least *try* a menstrual cup. Epiphora knows what’s up, y’all.

  59. Side note: I have a genderqueer friend who’s said that while they don’t love having to get up close and personal with their vaginal canal, they also love that they only need one little discreet device and can then forget about it for the duration of their waking hours. They love not having to walk through the “feminine hygiene aisle” at the drugstore or face the cashier with their purchase of those monthlies. They found the Ruby Cup, which donates a cup to a schoolgirl in a developing country for every cup they sell, and they got a clear Ruby Cup Classic with a black silicone sterilizing cup that’ “so metal”, which has a lid so they wouldn’t have to look at it much. There are a lot of reasons that trans* and non-binary folks might hate using a cup (hello pink flowers, hello dysphoria, hello probably-a-bunch-of-other-stuff-I-can’t-even-imagine), but at least for my friend, it’s alleviated a lot of the issues they have with managing their period.

  60. I got the Lily Compact for that exact reason… I get bag-checked at work every time I come and go, and my periods are extremely irregular. The Compact isn’t my favorite, but it gets the job done on that first day, then I use my favorite cup for the rest of my period. It’s collapsible, and comes with a plastic compact case (unfortunately pink…) that looks kind of like a compact mirror or makeup product. Lifesaver!!

  61. Yaaaay for menstrual cups! I adore mine and I suggest them to folks all the time! I have been using one for about twelve years, I started with The Keeper back when there weren’t good choices. That got partially eaten by a cat when I was housesitting (about as hilarious as it sounds!) and I bought a Mooncup. I’ve been very happy with it, and I’ll join the chorus in saying that it made my periods a different experience. I often work outside in the woods/fields/etc. or at sites with portapotties, and I bleed heavily, so I have learned to empty and clean the cup without washing. I wash it at the end of the day, even a quick swipe with a tissue wetted from a water bottle will do. I stage toilet paper or tissues next to me (if squatting outside) or on my leg (if sitting on a toilet), pull the cup out, empty it into the toilet or whatever, use a folded piece of toilet paper to wipe the inside and outside, then wipe my vulva, reinsert the cup, and wipe my hands on more toilet paper. It takes a bit of tissue or TP, but it means that I pretty much never worry about having to empty the cup in any kind of restroom.

    I do find that when I have a clot heavy period, the cup leaks some, because the clots are big enough to fill the cup up and break the seal (fun). I use backup pads at that point, and I just want to sing the praises of the Azalea line, which is carried at Whole Foods in the US. They’re cotton and disposable, have no smell, aren’t plasticky or clingy, and don’t make my crotch feel like a sweaty yeast-zone.

  62. Thanks for the information! I didn’t think about that. My big problem is that I can’t reach the top of the cup, I don’t know if extra length is going to solve that problem… but when I have some extra cash it couldn’t hurt to try.

  63. No one warned me that my periods would be heavier, or that I would bleed for basically an entire month and suffer through every minute of it. I saw a TERRIBLE OB/GYN to get it. I don’t go there anymore. Not that my current GYN is any better. :/

    I just tried my DivaCup again for a couple days because I missed it terribly. I couldn’t get the seal broken easily or consistently so I still can’t use it… which is heartbreaking because I honestly forgot how convenient and comfortable and amazing it is. I get a lot of vaginal dryness when I use sponges and tampons… I had none of that with the cup.


  64. Eh, I’ve looked at Diva Cups over the years, but I’m pretty sure this is the one thing I just can’t be sold on. I find tampons uncomfortable. That is bigger than a tampon.

  65. I have to jump on the comment train (late, I admit) because I love my cup so much! I have a SiBell which is a less common Italian one. It’s so soft! It’s made by a company that specializes in other silicone products so there’s no weird girly bullshit all over the site and subsequently they know their shit about good silicone.

    I have an absolute blood fest of a period and even though I have a really high capacity cup I still have to empty it 2-3 times a day if not more for the first three days or so. I don’t even try to be tidy when I empty it and subsequently I get a lot of residual blood everywhere and have to wear liners.

    I came to cups through cloth pads which I tried briefly. I liked them but they were expensive and I hated washing them, but still miles better than my disposable pads. When I ordered my first cup (a Fleurcup that I didn’t love) I had a semester with a solid 6 hour block of classes twice a week (two 3 hr studios) and my period always started on a weekday so trying to deal with pads was a nightmare. That was almost two years ago and I haven’t looked back since.

  66. I love my cup. I started using a cup almost two years ago and have now used only cup and cloth pads (instead of disposable ones) for the last three periods and my life is so much better. I’m a heavy bleeder, like 30ml in 2.5 hours kind of heavy with vomit-inducing cramps. But cups and cloth pads have made it so much more tolerable.

    I use a period tracking app, one of the fancy ones that lets you input your symptoms and bleeding strength and track them over time. I started using my app a couple periods before getting my first cup and since then my period has gotten shorter (from 8 days to 6 days) less heavy (two heavy days to one heavy day) and less painful cramps. On everything but my heaviest day I can forget I have a cup in until I need to change it because it’s so comfortable for me. I used to feel every second I had a tampon in because it just ached and felt wrong. My vagina also isn’t sore for several days after my period anymore and if you want to empty your cup before getting in the car you can! Even if it’s not full. Unlike a tampon where if you try and change it before it’s full it tears at the walls of your vagina.

    Cloth pads have also been really great for me. They come in super cute prints, aren’t noticeably thicker than standard maxi pads (they even don’t make me feel like I’m wearing a diaper like thick maxi pads do) and they’re so much more comfortable against the skin. My pads always used to adhere to the skin of my vulva. They always felt sticky and uncomfortable and they always smelled weird. Cloth pads don’t stick to me (since the top material is cotton, flannel, minky, or velour) they don’t smell, and they’re just tons more comfortable! Plus you can get them in cute things like sharks, and rainbow, and even superheros!

    Now there are downsides to both cups and cloth pads:
    1) you have to deal with blood, whether that’s sticking your fingers into your vagina or rinsing the blood out of your pads
    2) they’re more expensive at first. A cup will cost you anywhere between $12 and $40 dollars upfront but you can use them for at least a decade unless it suffers a terrible tragedy like a cat. A cloth pad costs anywhere from $3 to $20 dollars each and you need 10-15 of them to keep up a steady rotation. But a set that size will last at least 3-5 years and BOTH options end up costing less than you would buy in disposables in that time.
    3) you have to tote them there and back again and take something like baby wipes to clean your hands off with. For cloth pads you’re going to need either individual re-usable wrappers (like PUL or even ziplock baggies) or a small wet/dry bag so that you can keep your used/unused pads separate and for a cup you’re gonna need wipes and pantyliners (since it’s a good idea so you won’t wreck your undies if you leak a little)

    So cups and cloth pads aren’t all happy happy joy joy, but the long term cost savings, the comfort, and the ecological responsibility all outweigh the detractors for me.

  67. oh yes cups and cloth pads are great for my gender dysphoria. I have a blue cup and my pads can have things like skulls and sharks and superheroes on them instead of flowers and girls in skirts jumping and crap like that.

    I also don’t associate cups and non-girly cloth pads as inherently feminine and womanly like I do for tampons and disposable pads. So not only are the things I use visually masculine (sharks and blue and crap) but I also don’t have that learned association between them and *giiiiiirls*

  68. I don’t like the soft cup as much as my regular silicone cup but I keep them around to tuck into bags for those just-in-case things because they’re so flat compared to a regular cup

  69. Thank you so much for the tip of using hydrogen peroxide to clean the stains. It’s been driving me nuts that boiling wasn’t getting the stains off my cup!

  70. After two decades of using menstrual cups, I have so many stories that it’s hard to know which ones to tell! I’ve forgotten it was there and had a Noah-worthy flood of blood come gushing out where it had been successfully held back by the awesome seal of the cup. I’ve forgotten it was there and had a (cis male) partner say, on initial penetration, “Ow! Babe, I think you still have your cup in.” (Apparently that stem hurts a bit when it pokes the head of a penis.) I’ve had a new lover, while fingering me, say, “Um, what is THAT??” I’ve been wearing a cup 24/7 for about a decade because I discovered during a bout of pneumonia that when bleeding (and thus wearing my cup) my stress incontinence disappeared; apparently it functions as a pessary, supporting my damaged pelvic floor. (Please note, folks, that I’ve been told again and again that this is not a recommended practice. But with no health insurance, I can’t get a prescription pessary or any other medical treatment for the incontinence, and it’s done no discernible damage.)

    I’ve converted numerous friends to the cup and I’ll continue spreading the menstrual cup gospel!

  71. I…feel like a menstrual failure, haha. I have two fleur cups and one meluna (because blue sparkles). I have had these three cups for over a year now and have yet to actually *use* any of them. I could not care less about menstrual blood or futzing around down there during my period, it’s the horror stories of the cups getting suctioned onto cervixes that scare the shit out of me o_o One of these days I’m going to have to just bite the bullet and use them, they seem way too fantastic to ignore.

  72. Hi, Erica!

    When I was researching which cup to get (my second one), I found this website to be helpful: It’s more of a forum, so if you have a specific question or what to know more about a certain cup brand, you can type in keywords or browse topics. I go there whenever I need to figure something out about cups.

    They also have a policy to use gender-neutral language, so they watch out for it and ask posters to change language to gender-neutral when it happens. (Of course, I haven’t read everything on there, but that’s what I’ve seen so far.)

    I also found these size charts and guidelines for measurements to be helpful: The Diva cup was my first and was uncomfortably long for me, even after cutting off the stem. This page (and links at its bottom) helped me decide on the Fleurcup as my next one, and I love it! It fits and feels great for me.

    I hope this helps!

  73. Right? I am so glad I ordered my Sckoon Cup in the smaller size, because the fact that I am 40 (was 39 at the time) somehow did not make my period heavier or my vagina larger.

  74. I just remove mine in the shower. But then, I imagine people with a heavier flow might not find it convenient to take a shower every time they need to empty their cups!

  75. Yes! I used the Instead cup for a long time, and loved it so much. I even found that I could empty it during the day by sitting on the toilet and squeezing/pushing, so I didn’t have to remove it. But around a year or two ago, I apparently got more sensitive, and could feel that wide, firm ring stretching my vagina inside. Very uncomfortable. I’m now working on getting over the learning curve of a Sckoon cup.

  76. I do that as well. Trouble is, cups aren’t meant to be in for more than twelve hours (and my flow is heavy enough that that’s about the correct time frame anyway), and I don’t typically take more than one shower a day. My solution when I’m too lazy to be careful on the toilet? Just straddle the lip of the tub and then hose the subsequent mess down. XD

  77. Glad you like it. ^_^ The semi-squatting position also makes reinsertion easier, so when I’m at home this is kind of my go-to method, really.

  78. Well shoot, I’ll have to try that position for insertion too, then. I’ve been doing it on my back on the bed, legs in the air, and it can be quite frustrating getting the cup to open into the right position.

  79. Just entered the cup world this month and I’m regretting not doing it sooner. I have never had a regular period and I have extremely sensitive skin. I used to have constant anxiety that I would leak everywhere from an unexpected flow. I have constantly worn at least a panty liner to easy my worries, but I dreamed of a day when I could go liner-free and just wear my panties (or even nothing at all if the inclination hit me.)
    I now sing the praises of the menstrual cup. I can wear it daily for the spotting I have while on the pill. I tried the smaller Diva cup first because it was available at my local store. After a week I decided I needed a shorter cup and possibly a softer one. I can’t wear the Diva while lying down without pain. I’ve since purchased a small Si-bell, Ruby and Lunette. So far the Ruby is the winner for my comfort. I’m still waiting for the Lunette in the mail. Thanks so much for the review, actually all your reviews! I had given up on didos before I found your site. Now I’ve purchased several you reviewed and have not been disappointed. You do the world a great service.

  80. I frequently have moments where I’ll have a cramp and remember I’m menstruating, but not feel my cup, so I worry I’ve left home without it. But then I remember putting it in, and my anxiety attack is over. If anything it’s just a testament to how comfortable cups are.

  81. I’d love to try a Diva cup, and I totally will if at any point I start menstruating again, but ever since I got my slut stick (totally using that omg) that just hasn’t been a problem for me.
    This is a great review (as usual)

  82. What size cup did you get? I’m under 25 and never given birth, but because I can fit larger toys in my vagina, I’ve been thinking about getting a larger menstrual cup.

  83. I got the smaller one. I believe the Diva Cup is actually pretty large in general versus most other menstrual cups, but I’d go with how heavy your flow is more than anything else.


  85. For the record, I got the Diva Cup a few weeks ago because I’m no longer on birth control, and because I was NOT up for wearing itchy-ass pads once a month anymore…and so far I’m loving the experience. I mean, I hate the packaging, and I accidentally just dropped it into the toilet, but other than that I’m learning to get acclimated to it.

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