My friend Brettley gives us the scoop on this realistic, 2-in-1 sex toy for trans folks.
I squealed when I first heard about the New York Toy Collective Jack. Billed as a 2-in-1 packer and stroker, its existence really highlights how far sex toys for trans guys have come. Years ago my friend Sid tried the Bro Sleeve, a mass-produced toy for cis men that FTM trans people co-opted and modified like the crafty mofos they are. But the Jack is designed specifically for trans consumers, and it was created by an independent Black- and queer-owned company. Hello, this is way better. So I called on another friend, Brettley, to try the Jack and give us the scoop.
Brettley is a gorgeous rainbow: a trans bear, a queer pansy, a fat femme, and a person beyond labels. He is quiet and kind-hearted, more at home in a forest or on a beach than in a crowd. This sweet soul has worked in LGBTQ2+ community support and trans healthcare organizations since 2011, and they make and sell jewelry and candles infused with gay energy. (I made that up, but you know it’s true.) After you’re finished reading this, visit Teal Pansy Jewelry and use code EPIPHORA for 10% off!
Here’s what Brett had to say about stroking and packing with the Jack, including an ingenious technique for adding vibration to the mix.
Like Goldilocks, I was really hoping to find my “juuuust right” — though instead of porridge or beds, I was hoping to find the just-right stroker made for trans men and non-binary trans people who were assigned female at birth (AFAB), but sadly, New York Toy Collective’s Jack didn’t quite turn out to be that. You may think comparing myself to Goldilocks isn’t the right metaphor given that so many folks in this community have struggled with having womanhood forced on them when they didn’t want it, but as a metaphor for myself, I am fine with it — which probably says something about my own gender fluidity/fuckery, comfort with femininity, and general love for fairytales. Plus any story with three bears in it is a-okay with me.
The Jack comes in four realistic skin tones. Perhaps this is now standard in packers and dicks, but I think it’s still notable as this was not always the case (and still sometimes isn’t). I appreciate how many skin tone options New York Toy Collective offers, including multiple shades of black and brown.
With the Jack, I really liked that while you are handling your dick (or whatever you want to call it), you are literally handling a dick. Once suctioned on, the stroker was positioned like an extension of my own bits. I found this helped with my dysphoria and felt pretty comfortable too. Comfort may not sound like high praise, but I think it’s important since some AFAB trans people struggle with the bits we were born with — testosterone or not.
What I didn’t love was the lack of stretch in the silicone. Because the Jack is relatively firm, I found it difficult to use for its intended purpose of stroking. The cavity is 3/8″ to 5/8″ in diameter according to Jack’s marketing, which seems pretty accurate. Just imagine a cavity the size and shape of a pinky finger, which wasn’t exactly right for me. I think I needed a little more flexibility for it to feel good — or perhaps a different shape / larger cavity.
It was also a bit challenging to use as a mid-fat person. For those not blessed with the fat lifestyle, let me explain: it was difficult to maneuver the relatively small cavity onto my bits with a large belly to reach around. It seems to me that super fat people or people with arthritis or other conditions that affect hand dexterity would have a hard time using this stroker.
Once I was using it as most folks might imagine a stroker is used, it was a bit meh. Lube made it more pleasurable for stroking, but I couldn’t feel the internal ribbing, which was kind-of a downer.
Part of the appeal of a stroker to me was that it was something many cis men used, and I always felt left out of that. And believe me, there are many parts of cis manness I want no part in — but strokers did seem like a fun part. Having tried a number of them now has been enjoyable, but not earth-shattering. I think I had built up in my head how great they were, and having found them to be a little bit meh, it’s made me wonder what all the fuss is about — and consider that cis men may find them fairly middle of the road too.
One neat thing I tried with the Jack was suctioning it onto my dick, then holding a cordless Hitachi Magic Wand against it. It stayed put pretty well because of the snug fit, and it muted the sensation of the Hitachi somewhat. Sometimes the Hitachi’s vibrations are too strong, so this was a fun way to be able to use it. I think some folks might be into positioning the Hitachi on various parts of the dick-shaped stroker and exploring what that feels like — which could be gender-affirming. After all, people of all genders can use a Magic Wand.
This technique would not work as well with the other strokers I have tried, as they did not suction onto my body to the same extent as the Jack.
As for packing, I liked it and will use it when I feel like packing, which is not that often these days. I really appreciated the size and density for packing. I remember the first packer I ever got, a small Mr. Limpy, and I found it to be HUGE. It looked like I had a hard-on all the time (worse so in tight pants) which isn’t something I would want at work, or, say, the grocery store. I liked how the Jack created a smaller bulge. As a word to the wise, I found that the Jack stayed in the same shape you can see in the photos, so for folks who want a packer that resembles an even more flaccid state, this may not be the one for you. Because of its design, the Jack doesn’t work super well with a packing strap.
One surprising bonus: because the Jack has a closed end, it not only suctions on, it makes a fun plopping sound when you throw it at someone. For those who like sploshing and the sounds associated with it, this could be quite satisfying.
Goldilocks verdict: this stroker is one of many options. The binary of 2 or even 3 distinct choices is a false one. (I am sure you are shocked that a trans person would write such a thing.) However, Jack’s body-safe silicone and its dual purpose as both a packer and stroker are really good features. Will I be jerking off with it every day? Definitely not. Will I use it occasionally? Sure. Did I like it better than other strokers targeted towards AFAB trans folks? Yes.