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An abridged guide to decoding horseshit articles about the G-spot

Look beyond the clickbaity headlines and lazy reporting. That latest “study” does not “prove” anything new about the G-spot.

Scare-tactic G-spot headlines complete with stock photos of women and feet.

Less than a month ago we were attacked by headlines screaming that the G-spot doesn’t exist, and here we are again, with yet another news source “reporting” (I use that word quite loosely) on yet another “study” “proving” that the G-spot is a “myth” and EVERYONE CALM DOWN AND TOUCH YOUR CLITORIS.

It’s not the first, and it will never be the last, but it’s the one that broke me.

My soul has been cracking, little by little, each time this happens. Like that time a sex educator drew a question mark on an anatomy chart in place of a G-spot. That time a guy dared to write a book called What Do Women Want? and then went on Tristan Taormino’s radio show and claimed that “science hasn’t settled these questions” about the G-spot. And my personal favorite: that time over 1,000 people reported that they have G-spots and the media distilled that study into the headline “the G-spot doesn’t exist,” while a single solitary dude dissected a cadaver and the media piped up helpfully, “G-spot found.”

It wasn’t the “study” itself that broke me, although it is highly problematic too, but the “reporting” surrounding it. Folks are glancing at these scare-tactic headlines — “We Have Some Bad News About The G-Spot,” really? Like parents announcing a divorce? — and never reading beyond them. Or, worse, taking the time to read the articles only to be inculcated with false information.

There is much lazy reporting. With no compass for decoding it… until now.

Let’s begin with the headline.

The G-Spot And ‘Vaginal Orgasm’ Are Myths, According To New Clinical Review

As always, it is bold. It is definitive. It is clickbait. There is always a stock photo — of a woman moaning in faux-pleasure, a woman grasping a dude’s back like a cat climbing a curtain, or a tangle of four feet in dire need of someone to tuck them in. When posted on Facebook, the headline changes to the even more clickbaity “There’s A Reason You Can’t Find Your G-Spot.” Oh yeah. Reel ’em in.

Now, how does one start an article about the G-spot when so much has been said about the G-spot? By stating that much has been said about the G-spot.

The struggle to find the G-spot and achieve the mythical “vaginal orgasm” is real. Books have been written on it; sex therapists have explained how to stimulate it; even Cosmopolitan magazine has tried to instruct dutiful readers how to find it.

Benign, yes? No. It calls the vaginal orgasm “mythical.” It states that “even Cosmopolitan magazine has tried to instruct dutiful readers how to find it” — in other words, even the lowly Cosmo has jumped on the bandwagon, trying (bless their hearts) to instruct dutiful (read: clueless) readers how to find the G-spot. They might as well be fumbling around in the dark for their contact lenses, am I right?!

This is a good time to gaze upon the address bar of your browser, at which point you may find the URL to begin with huffingtonpost.com. Ah yes, the place where all the regurgitated non-news is published. Who is this author, Rebecca Adams? I don’t know, but she seems to like elephants and has also written “Study Finds That ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’ Is Pretty Dead On.”

But a review published this week in the journal Clinical Anatomy may just halt all of these fruitless quests with the conclusion that neither the elusive G-spot nor the vaginal orgasm exist.

Very important distinction, here: a literature review has been published — not a study. Nothing has actually been studied. The researchers have simply rounded up other studies and projected their insecurities and biases upon them come to a conclusion. For a moment I want to quote the actual literature review in question (which I read in its pedantic, exclamation-point-ridden entirety) because this pretty much says it all:

The vaginal orgasm does not exist, so the duration of penile–vaginal intercourse is not important for a woman’s orgasm. Many men think long intercourse is the key to having orgasms during intercourse, but long intercourse is not helpful to women and some females may be grateful to get it over with quickly.

Take a deep breath.

Back to the HuffPo article.

“Like most things that are about sex, people get very hot and bothered on either end of this, but I really can’t say from my clinical practice that I’m at all convinced that there is a G-spot,” Dr. Gail Saltz, a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York Presbyterian Hospital and author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life (who was not involved in the new review), told The Huffington Post. “I think that a lot of women are very frustrated trying to attain something that may not be attainable.”

Behold the magical bait-and-switch: we are suddenly introduced to a professional of some sort who… had absolutely nothing to do with the literature review in question. NOTHING. The writer at HuffPo must’ve been like, “okay, so there’s this new thing about the G-spot, and I want to write about it because page hitz, but it’s kinda dry if I simply report the facts. Let me call someone and get some QUOTES!”

Of course, they needed someone to support the review’s “findings,” so it’s not like they could ask Tristan Taormino or Beverly Whipple. So they got Dr. Gail Saltz, who is neither a sex researcher nor a sex therapist nor anything beginning with “sex.” Yes, she’s written one book about sex (which has 7 reviews on Amazon despite being out since 2009), but that’s it. By her own description, she is a psychiatrist, columnist, and TV commentator.

She also has less followers than I do on Twitter. Yes, I just went there. #noregrets

In their Clinical Anatomy article, Italian researchers Vincenzo Puppo and Giulia Puppo stress the importance of using the correct terminology when discussing female sexual organs and women’s capacity for orgasm. They write that the so-called G-spot, a term that refers to a pleasurable spot located inside the vagina in the pelvic urethra, doesn’t exist — rather, every woman has the capacity to orgasm if her clitoris is stimulated. As such, the term “vaginal orgasm” is incorrect and “female orgasm” should be used instead, they argue.

Note the names of the researchers. Often it’s a dude parade. This one’s unusual because it seems to be a man and a woman (although I can’t find barely any information about them aside from this recent rash of news articles, which is… suspicious).

Also, if you look closely you’ll realize that HuffPo is actually revealing the true content of Puppo and Puppo’s review: an argument about semantics. The Puppos argue that tons of anatomical terms have no “scientific bias,” and therefore female ejacuation should really be called “female emission,” etc. etc. etc.

But that’s boring! Let’s move on!

The original research on G-spots, led by Addiego, who coined the term after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg in 1981, was based on a woman who “identified an erotically sensitive spot, palpable through the anterior wall of her vagina.” When the area was touched, it became larger and the woman reported increased sensitivity, pleasure and a desire to urinate — all of which led Addiego to conclude “the orgasms she experienced in response to the Gräfenberg stimulation felt much the same.”

However, the new review points out that the woman also reported that, at the time of testing, she had been diagnosed with a grade one cystocele, a condition in which “the supportive tissue between a woman’s bladder and vaginal wall weakens and stretches, allowing the bladder to bulge into the vagina.” The resulting side effects of cystocele, the authors argue, make the woman a poor candidate for the basis of a sexual theory with flimsy subsequent medical proof.

One woman one time had a condition that could have skewed stuff and therefore NO G-SPOT. HAHAHA, GOTCHU.

Among other highly unconvincing arguments for the G-spot’s non-existence, the literature review also argues that a certain “thick, detailed book” only makes “a passing mention of the G-spot” and therefore “one can only infer that the G-spot, if it does indeed exist, is devoid of importance in the female orgasm.” One can only infer. Meanwhile, HuffPo is making some rad blanket statements…

Neglecting the clitoris and emphasizing the G-spot may be why so many women don’t orgasm.

This sounds like a thing you should nod in agreement about, but please don’t. Yes, the G-spot is sometimes put on a pedestal. Yes, some people believe that vaginal orgasms should be easy and therefore don’t focus on exploring clitoral ones. But there are about a thousand other reasons “many women don’t orgasm,” including moronic sex partners having no goddamn patience, or sex ed never mentioning any sort of pleasure anatomy. To continually push the G-spot as the cause of all our sexual shortcomings is ludicrous.

Despite previous studies, the researchers say the vagina has no anatomical relationship with the clitoris. They write: “The correct and simple anatomical term to describe the cluster of erectile tissues (i.e. clitoris, vestibular bulbs and pars intermedia, labia minora, and corpus spongiosum of the female urethra) responsible for female orgasm, is ‘female penis.'”

This is the precise moment that broke me. The sentence that so infuriated me I opened the WordPress dashboard and started verbally ejaculating this post. Female penis?! FEMALE PENIS. I can’t. Defining vulvar anatomy in relation to penises: STOP. The literature review also reads: “Moreover, the ‘clitoral complex’ cannot be analogous to the male penis: there is no vagina in the male penis!” Exclamation points!

While the concept of a “female penis” may sound strange, the clitoris and penis have quite a few similarities when it comes to sexual pleasure, starting with their shape (see the illustration above), and that increased blood flow causes their spongy tissues to engorge as orgasm approaches. The problem is, much of the unerect clitoris isn’t visible — it may be up to 9 centimeters long, according to a seminal paper on the clitoris published by Australian urologist Helen O’Connell in 1998.

The inclusion of this tidbit of fairly-well-agreed-upon science, that of the internal clitoris, is particularly hilarious because if you read the actual literature review this article is based on? The researchers claim, IN THE FOURTH SENTENCE OF THE ABSTRACT, that “the internal/inner clitoris does not exist: the entire clitoris is an external organ.” Again, because semantics. But I guess that didn’t fit the narrative HuffPo wanted.

We’re nearing the end of the article and yet somehow a factoid about G-spot-enhancing medical procedures has not been included, so c’mon, author, shove one in wherever you want.

Doctors offer G-spot-enhancing procedures, a practice Jeffrey Spike, a bioethicist at Florida State University’s College of Medicine, equated with “medical fraud” in a 2007 interview, adding that “the G-spot belongs in the same category as angels and unicorns.” (The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists also called out these procedures for the lack of data on efficacy and safety.)

Apparently the G-spot cannot exist if we are to shun the medical enhancement of it. Or something. I don’t know. Also the sensation of my G-spot being stimulated is kinda like angels singing.

The end of the article is near, and the author hunts for a fitting conclusion. The literature review, again, is too dry, not punchy enough, and reading it for quotes would take too long. Anti-G-spot advocate from TV? Play us out!

As for the women who do claim to achieve orgasm from “G-spot” stimulation? More power to you, Saltz said (well, in a nutshell). But she also said that being so singularly goal-oriented toward orgasm may not be the most direct route to pleasure.

“The way that we talk about it in society, many women feel that [orgasm] is what they’re supposed to do and that that would be the supreme success of the encounter,” Saltz said. “But most women do report that it’s the closeness; it’s the shared intimacy; and, of course, the physical arousal is pleasurable by itself.”

. . .”The G-spot is an issue and there are definitely people who feel strongly that it’s real,” Saltz said. “But I think that women who are fairly sexually educated know that their clitoris is where it’s at, so to speak.”

Let’s all start a slow clap for Miss Saltz. She literally just tried to argue that folks should not prioritize a specific type of pleasure, yet here she is, telling us that anyone who prioritizes the G-spot is sexually uneducated, because the “clitoris is where it’s at.” I expect nothing less from a person who has authored books entitled Becoming Real: Defeating the Stories We Tell Ourselves That Hold Us Back and Anatomy of a Secret Life: Are the People in Your Life Hiding Something You Should Know?. This lady is really into lies, so it only makes sense that she loves the lie of the mythological G-spot.

And she’s great at spouting conclusive-sounding quotes. So HuffPo is happy.

So what have we learned, class?

  • Don’t believe the panicked headlines. The G-spot is alive and well.
  • The author of the article likely has never done any significant research into the history of the G-spot and studies about it until 6 hours ago. But as media consumers in our culture, they know the narrative they should follow — and by god, they’re gonna follow it.
  • Consider the source and read closely to uncover biases, particular wording, and distracting quotes from only marginally-related sources.
  • If you don’t have time to read the study itself, do not share the article or absorb it into your consciousness.
  • If you do have time to read the study itself, remember that researchers have biases too — and literature reviews love to cherry-pick data.
  • Most G-spot studies nowadays are arguing semantics.
  • Any study disregarding the actual sexual experiences of people with vaginas is bullshit.

And fuck, if you have a vagina, trust your body above all. Unlike most researchers, I come from the place of having actual physical experience with the G-spot. Until about age 20, I had no opinion about it whatsoever. When I discovered sex toys, I leisurely looked for it. Then I felt the rumblings of G-spot stimulation, so I thrusted faster, and I squirted. I’ve loved G-spot stimulation ever since, and routinely insist that my sex toys stroke the fuck out of my G-spot.

And I’ve felt the G-spot of someone else. Fingers in their vagina, I’ve felt the unique corrugated texture and listened as they instructed me to press harder, curl my fingers more. I’ve witnessed the pleasure wash over their body, and it is familiar to me, because I’ve felt it myself — almost every time I use an insertable sex toy.

That is not a bias. It’s not a delusion. That is a fact.

The G-spot is not a hoax invented by heathens to shame people for the kind of pleasure they experience. It is an actual area in the vagina (commonly known as the urethral sponge) that causes sensation when touched a certain way. Some people like the sensation, some hate it, some are indifferent. People vary. Responses vary. Responses vary over time, in different situations, with different toys and techniques. People are, if you can believe it, nuanced.

But not enjoying G-spot stimulation, not liking the word G-spot, or not believing in the G-spot does not will it out of existence. Nor does writing clickbaity headlines.

Now if you’ll excuse me I have a great need to squirt all over the floor.

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Comments

  1. Oh those damn non-news articles. I fucking hate them. They always leave me wishing I could get a refund on the time wasted reading them.

  2. since we all start out as female, if we’re going to start renaming things instead of “female penis” shouldn’t it be “male clitoris”?

  3. “Verbally ejaculating” I think you mean verbally emitting from your female mouth. as opposed to your male mouth.

  4. When it comes to the G-spot and how it affects people I’m much more inclined to align myself with the subjective experience of countless people than the objective results of various sample sizes. Especially when, as you said, scientists are basically just splitting hairs, or trying to fit orgasms into a binary model of understanding.

  5. I saw this headline while browsing my twitter feed, waiting for my current paramour to finish making making me post-coital soup.
    “Hm. Says here that a study claims vaginal orgasms don’t exist.”
    “So the last half hour didn’t happen?”
    “Nope. Guess I’m a MAGICAL FUCKING UNICORN”

  6. You. I love you. So much. Because of this. I barely read through that “article” before I saw you comment about it because it was just one of those “oh, whelp, guess I’ll keep having sex WRONG then because it FEELS GOOD”. I’m really glad you wrote this. And also? [REDACTED EXPLETIVE INCLUSIVE COMMENT], yanno?

  7. I vote that we all just go fuck ourselves. Seriously. We grab our g-spotting toys, go find where Huffington Post is smoking, and FUCK OURSELVES. *flips table*
    This is rage-inducing. Do not tell me I am wrong, scientists. I KNOW WHAT I FEEL. Me and a kazillion women can prove its existence!
    . . . AND UNICORNS DO EXIST! THEY JUST HAD A WEIGHT PROBLEM AND STARTED BEING CALLED RHINOS!
    *takes a few deep breaths, grabs dildos/vibes, and crawls into hole*

  8. WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND?! The g-spot is, get this, a spot on the anterior vaginal wall where you can PAY ATTENTION indirectly stimulate the clitoris. And get this, absolute breaking news, the clitoris is a large internal structure with small external exposure. Some people don’t enjoy g-spot stimulation because CAN YOU BELIEVE IT HUGE SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERY HERE some people like different things. There are big clits and small clits, super sensitive clits and clits that can take a jackhammer. Hell, some women don’t even have clits. Who the hell are you to tell me that when I stimulate the g-spot and it feels good, nothing is actually happening irl because the g-spot don’t real.

  9. I was nodding furiously throughout your analysis of the “study” and especially when I got to this: “Any study disregarding the actual sexual experiences of people with vaginas is bullshit” and the part where you talk about your experience of feeling both your and another person’s g-spot. Yes, yes, yes!

    I am so tired of these ridiculous articles and of people attacking the g-spot’s existence. Yes, not everyone responds to g-spot stimulation, and as you said, some people love it and some people hate it (like uh, anything related to sex? or life?) but the fact that society needs “proof” from “research” when so many people with g-spots know without a doubt that they have one is bullshit. It’s like Extreme Mansplaining: You only have a g-spot if we tell you you do. Fuck that.

    Oh, and this: “Also the sensation of my G-spot being stimulated is kinda like angels singing.” I just about died laughing. Yes!

    Thank you for writing this! You summed up what is actually going on in the article as well as the whole g-spot “debates” beautifully.

  10. Thank you! Those awful clickbait headlines pissed me off so much, but I couldn’t put it into words, especially in the way you can. I’m still figuring out how to make mine happy, but I sure as fuck know it’s there. The part about having felt a partner’s, and watched and felt their orgasm from stimulating it, really rang true as well.
    Thank you for being a beacon of truth in a world full of stupid misinformation and mansplaining.

  11. All of the things you said, yes!
    Then my personal pet peeve that women should just settle for “general pleasure” during sexual encounters. That female orgasms are somehow not a goal in itself or even important. That men’s orgasms are a given and if they don’t get one there is something wrong and it must be fixed, but if a woman can’t climax it’s because there’s no proof she even has organs to provide that type of pleasure. Because that’s basically what those articles are saying.

  12. Instead of reading the shitty HuffPo article, I read the actual paper … I suggest everybody do the same. If you don’t even want to read the whole article, at least read the introduction:

    “Orgasm is a normal psycho-physiological function of humans: women have the right to feel sexual pleasure, and for this reason sexual medicine experts and sexologists must spread certainties on the biological basis of the female orgasm to all women, not hypotheses or personal opinions, and they must use scientific sexual terminology. The embryology, anatomy and physiology of the female erectile organs, triggers of orgasm, are often neglected by sexological and sexual medicine textbooks, and some researchers have proposed and divulged new anatomical and physiological terminology for the sexual response in women. The aim of this review is to clarify whether these new terms used for the clitoris and female orgasm by sexual medicine experts and sexologists have a scientific basis.”

    Ultimately, the HuffPo article sensationalizes one part of the greater literature review and purposefully creates a forum for people to heatedly proclaim their personal knowledge about the G spot … I’m not even surprised. Instead, I’d like to discuss how a better scientific understanding of female anatomy, sexual response, and orgasm is essential in creating a societal climate in which women’s sexuality is accepted and important.

  13. They both start from the same set of cells, so why not?

    “The correct and simple anatomical term to describe the cluster of erectile tissues (i.e. clitoris, vestibular bulbs and pars intermedia, labia minora, and corpus spongiosum of the female urethra) ” — those parts do correspond with the scrotum and penis and are the same thing during fetal development. Doesn’t mean that in adults they’re the same, anymore than an arm is a wing.

  14. As a person that can only achieve truly satisfactory orgasms through INTERNAL stimulation, I would like to smack the people that say that the vaginal orgasm is a myth. I rarely, if ever, bother with clitoral stimulation because it never gets me what I want. Sure, I can sometimes get a semblance of an orgasm from external stim, but it feels empty and frustrating compared to what I get from a favored dildo. Sometimes direct clitoral stimulation can be uncomfortable if not painful. I once slapped someone who kept rubbing my clit when I told him to stop because it didn’t feel good.

    The thing that really bothers me about these articles is how they seem to be focused solely on cis-het coitus as being the sole way a vagina-haver can achieve orgasm, and tearing the whole orgasm itself apart (sometimes even severely de-emphasising the need for it). It ignores solo/partner toy play and lesbian sexual experiences (with at least one cis-female partner). They seem to put a lot of energy into telling (cis) women to give up on having satisfactory orgasms or exploring their own bodies, and that /really/ bugs me.

  15. I did read the entire paper, as well as discuss it and link to it in this post. However, while that paragraph may seem like they have the best intentions in mind, there are some really fucked up things being said in it — like this: “Female sexual satisfaction is based on orgasm and resolution: in all women, orgasm is always possible if the female erectile organs, i.e. the female penis, are effectively stimulated.”

    In any case, I wanted this post to be about the articles that perpetuate mis-readings and exaggerations about scientific papers, not necessarily the paper itself. As you say, the article sensationalizes one part of the review, and that is highly problematic.

  16. I feel slightly ashamed the female Puppo shares my first name. Aside from that, what a load of clickbaity bullshit. You’re my hero for this 😀

  17. Thank you!!

    I was so annoyed when I read the article – One of the things that pissed me off the most was the one in the Daily Mail (A ‘newspaper’ in the UK) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2783791/The-vaginal-orgasm-doesn-t-exist-s-clitoris-holds-key-female-pleasure-study-claims.html

    According to this ‘research’ was carried out on 30 women! 30! – I had to get more people to test things on in a science report – but now you do research on 30 women and can class their orgasms as a myth! – Though the comments from people on the article really did make me laugh.

  18. Oh god, the semantics. I once read an article somewhere that basically said the G-spot didn’t exist, but that many women found stimulation to an area of the front wall of the vagina to be pleasurable. Just. What? Why are you wasting time essentially writing, “No, but actually yes”?

    Also, “female penis.”
    …………
    HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERP-A-DERP!

    I hereby proclaim that testicles should from now on be called, “male ovaries.”

  19. god, i hate the bullshit people spout when they include “research” in their articles.

    as an aside, i really do wish we could call the g-spot something else, if only because it’s named after a dude.

  20. Normally I’d agree, but this kinda made me think Gräfenberg was a cool guy. He wrote this in his paper:

    Occasionally the production of fluids is so profuse that a large towel has to be spread under the woman to prevent the bed sheets from getting soiled… If there is the opportunity to observe the orgasm of such women, one can see that large quantities of a clear transparent fluid are expelled not from the vulva, but out of the urethra in gushes… I am inclined to believe that ‘urine’ reported to be expelled during female orgasm is not urine, but only secretions of the intraurethral glands correlated with the erotogenic zone along the urethra in the anterior vaginal wall.

    Dude was THERE.

  21. These articles makeme cringe. They use pseudo science to get traffic, negate any concept of individuality, and promote a narrow (often misogynistic) view of orgasms and women’s sexuality.
    A shit show is putting it lightly.

  22. a vagina orgasm is a result of clitoral stimulation. There is no ‘on it’s own’ vaginal orgasm. Sorry folks.

  23. FWIW – I did find some info about the researchers, and I emailed the institute where Vincenzo Puppo worked a few years ago to find out some more. I’m still waiting for their response. I’m thinking: quack. I wrote the search up in a blog post at http://jaykuda.wordpress.com/2014/10/09/puppo/ where I link to the different pages – but anyway, Vincenzo appears to be kind of a legitimate-ish scientist, albeit not entirely in consensus with, you know, science. He has a frantic blog and an even more frantic YouTube account. Apparently, he has been on some kind of crusade to disprove not only that the G-spot doesn’t exist, but that the clitoris should actually be called a female penis, because, he says, that is what it is. On Giulia I couldn’t find anything apart from a Miss World candidate. That’s probably someone else, I don’t know.

  24. Was flipping through the tv channels when I briefly heard this issue mentioned in some talk show. Made a mental note to look this up for myself but then I forgot. Glad you posted this and discussed it with us. Interesting thing is that a few of my male friends have mentioned that they are happy with this “new” scientific study and it takes a lot of pressure off them. I didn’t even realize that view point and wasn’t quite sure what to say to them. However, I will definitely forward them to your blog now 🙂

  25. Hmm, yeah, that’s awkward. But I feel like they should only feel pressured if their partners are interested in exploring their G-spots. I would hate for people to give up on the G-spot because they heard it doesn’t exist — ugh!

  26. If the G-spot doesn’t exist, then I would like to know WTactualF is going on down there, because I’m pretty sure I’m a G-spot owner.

    Side note: A publicist (not publisher) once wanted to send me a book to review about some dude’s views of women and sex, and one of the big points was that there is no G-spot. I sent back a rather strong email that, in short, informed the publicist that I am the owner of a G-spot, thank you very much.

  27. I admit that at first I didn’t believe that the quotes you said were from the article (such as “some females may be grateful to get it over with quickly” or “female penis”) really were from a scientific article published in a reputable journal. Surely there was a misunderstanding, like overlooked nestled quotes or paraphrasing.

    So I googled and read the article in question and yep, they’re really really in there. Wow.

  28. But it isn’t your blog! We all know some big corporate interest pumps trillions of dollars into funding for your website. C’mon, don’t lie to folks.

    (I’ll be back when I can stop rolling in the floor laughing)

  29. I saw the discussion from my email and popped over. I told my wife you were talking about an article that says the G-spot is a myth, and she made a noise of disgust. Jolynn doesn’t do penetration, and her G-spot comes out to meet me every time. There is always squirting, and sometimes it’s over my shoulder and hitting the dresser. We’ve joked that I need a scuba suit so I don’t drown.

    I’m glad you wrote an article about this womanly myth, since it needed to be said. There needs to be more good articles about relationships that are not primarily aimed at only M/f folks. Or the ever popular articles, that are mostly pictures, telling me how lesbians have sex, and what they like best when they do it. Insert eye roll here. Unless people have been to same kink events I go to, they don’t know how I like my sex. There’s some guys at Thunder that totally know since they were standing right by us on purpose.

    So, thank you Epiphora for writing your articles and posting them for the world to read.

  30. Well, I do want to point out that some women have more difficulty orgasming if there’s too much pressure to do so. So, it can actually help a woman have an orgasm if the focus – especially the partner’s focus – is on just doing things that feel good to her and enjoying the pleasure of the moment, rather than on “SHE MUST HAVE AN ORGASM AT ALL COSTS!” Ya know? (But I agree with your point, too.)

  31. Wow, Caroline. Did you do any research on Epiphora at all? Read any of her many bluntly honest, and sometimes very negative, reviews of sex toys? And if the g-spot is a lie, then why would sex toy companies have any need to perpetuate it when they could focus solely on clitoral toys? … Your logic is not logical.

    Also, it’s perfectly fine if you don’t enjoy internal vaginal stimulation. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. But it also doesn’t mean every other woman on the planet is exactly the same as you in that respect.

  32. OMG!! “Male ovaries”! In laughing so damn hard right now and in the best way possible! Let me explain and and maybe bring a little anti-chest thumping male perspective to the table. First off, I hate articles like the one discussed. You have a bunch of guys who have had sex maybe twice in their life sitting around trying to contemplate why their partners didn’t enjoy it and all they can come up with is that the g-spot must be a myth because that is supposed to be the area of the vagina that receives the most pleasure from penile stimulation. Now just because their tiny dicks couldn’t effectively reach that area it must be a myth. The women involved in backing up this claim were probably the ones who slept with these idiots and therefore never experienced any stimulation of any kind. I truly feel for them! Instead of picking up a good vibe/dildo and exploring this for themselves, they are stuck thinking that just because they had sex and didn’t experience internal pleasure that it can’t possibly exsist.

    Thank God not all men agree with this load of shit. Any that do are denying themselves and their partners something truly magical…oh yea…unicorns.

    To any men reading this. You owe it to yourselves to talk to your partners and ask them if they have either found their g-spot or are interested in finding it and go from there. I’m not going to tell you how to find as there is an abundance of info on his to do it. The fact is IT DOES EXSIST!!! Trust me, your partner will thank you for taking the time to explore and learn this part of her body and you man clit and male ovaries will thank you!

  33. I have to apologize for the grammar in my previous post. I was laughing and shaking my head so hard that I had a difficult time typing.

    The point is ladies, don’t take this garbage to seriously. You know it’s there, I know it’s there and lots of other good men do too. Don’t let a narrow minded group of sexually deprived ppl cast a shadow on enjoying your body. I’ve always thought that sex is 5% physical, 15% mental and 80% taking the time to learn and understand how the other 20% works together. Everyone is wired differently and everyone like different things. For instance, when my wife screams from a really good orgasm, that’s my most favorite sound in the world and I will little start shooting into the wind without ever touching myself. That’s just how I’m wired.

    So forget the tightwads who’s assholes are puckered so tight that there is no way they could ever find out that pleasure can be found there too!

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