Nov 152013

If you ask me, sex toys are way better gifts than socks or body wash. Now I may be biased, considering I own hundreds of them and have been testing them and reviewing them for many years, but you know. The point is, I have OPINIONS about things that go on vulvas and in vaginas and butts, and even sometimes over penises.

Today, I was on Sex Out Loud Radio telling the universe all about my top sex toy gift ideas — plus my tips for picking out a sex toy for someone else. As an accompaniment, here’s the written version — along with photos of the toys and links to my reviews. Everything you need to get giftin’!

[Edit: this post is continually updated to include newer toys!]

Where should you shop? My favorite sex toy stores are
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Babeland, Smitten Kitten, CAYA (Canada), and Lovehoney (international)!


LELO Mona 2 vibratorWhen picking out a vibrator for someone else, the key word you want to keep in mind is versatility. Don’t get something that has one speed, or even 3, if you ask me — it’s just a little bit too limiting. Also don’t get something that has a very very specific purpose or unusual shape, unless you know your recipient wants something that like that.

In terms of versatility, my #1 pick is the Mona 2 vibrator from LELO. I’ve become so obsessed with this toy that I’m pretty sure everyone’s getting sick of hearing about it. But it covers all the bases: it’s rechargeable, strong, fully submersible in water, and the shape is just awesome. It has a bulbous end for excellent G-spot stimulation, but it’s also sort of tapered on one side, so it sits nicely between the labia when used clitorally. It also has incredible range in terms of vibration, so a person who doesn’t know how much power they need yet can find out.

As a bonus, it comes in a box that’s already perfect for gift-giving. You can literally just toss a bow around it and be done. Which is great because I’m already having flash-forwards to how much peppermint schnapps I’m going to have to drink while I wrap presents this year just to make it bearable.

Get the LELO Mona 2 at LELOSheVibe, Early to BedBabelandCome As You Are (Canada), or Lovehoney (international).

We-Vibe Rave vibratorL'Amourose Prism V vibratorOhMiBod Lovelife Cuddle vibratorPicoBong Moka vibrator

Want a toy with similar versatility that doesn’t cost quite as much? Consider the We-Vibe RaveL’Amourose Prism V, OhMiBod Lovelife Cuddle, or PicoBong Moka. All have an impressive range of vibration intensities and effective shapes for internal or external use. The Rave is ideal for G-spot hunters or those wanting to explore long-distance play, as it has an app that can control it from afar. The Prism V is best for clitoral stimulation and waterproof functionality. The rechargeable Cuddle and battery-operated Moka are even less expensive.

Get the We-Vibe Rave at We-VibeSheVibe, Early to Bed, Smitten KittenBabelandGood VibesCome As You Are (Canada), or Lovehoney (international).

Get L’Amourose Prism V at SheVibe, Early to Bed, or Lovehoney (international).

Get the OhMiBod Lovelife Cuddle at SheVibeGood VibesBabelandEarly to Bed, or Lovehoney (international).

Get the PicoBong Moka at LELOSheVibe, or Babeland.

LELO Siri 2 vibratorWe-Vibe Touch vibratorToyfriend Snazzy vibratorJe Joue G-spot Bullet vibrator PicoBong Ako vibrator

If you’re looking for a solid clitoral/external vibe, there are some really good options out there these days. I suggest one with pleasingly rumbly vibrations and many power settings, such as the LELO Siri 2We-Vibe Touch, Toyfriend Snazzy (with one cupped side and one smooth side for varied sensations), or Je Joue G-spot Bullet. The battery-operated PicoBong Ako is cheaper and also great.

Get the LELO Siri 2 at LELOSheVibeBabeland, Good Vibes, or Lovehoney (international).

Get the We-Vibe Touch at We-VibeSheVibe, Early to BedSmitten KittenBabeland, Good Vibes, or Lovehoney (international).

Get the Toyfriend Snazzy at SheVibe or Good Vibes.

Get the Je Joue G-Spot Bullet at SheVibe, Babeland, Good Vibes, or Lovehoney (international).

Get the PicoBong Ako at LELOSheVibe, or Babeland.

Vibratex Hitachi Magic Wand Rechargeable

Finally, I’d be remiss not to mention one of my favorite toys ever, the Magic Wand Rechargeable. This is a hefty workhorse of a vibrator, with a very broad head, large body, and intense vibrations sure to get me off in even the toughest situations. But! Just because I mentioned it here doesn’t mean it’s perfect for everyone. It’s awesome for those who need to cover a lot of surface area with a lot of oomph, but it’s not really for beginners or folks who prefer pinpoint stimulation.

Get the Magic Wand Rechargeable at SheVibeEarly to BedSmitten KittenBabelandGood Vibes, or Come As You Are (Canada).


You need to be honest with yourself — how much do you actually know about what your recipient likes? For instance, if they don’t listen to music while jacking off, don’t get them a music-powered vibe no matter how much you want to blast Black Sabbath on it. If they’ve never had a vibrator, don’t get them something that plugs into the wall and sounds like a sander.

Insertable toys are the most complicated in this way. I think people err on the side of too big, perhaps because they use their own dicks as measuring sticks. I once heard a guy complain that the toy he bought for his wife was too big for her, but no joke, the actual manufacturer name of the toy was Big Boss. So, common sense, yo. Read the measurements. Visualize. Be realistic.

Fun Factory Bootie butt plugnjoy Pure Plug butt plugNobEssence Romp butt plug

One thing you can do is casually have a conversation in advance where you try to scope out what someone is interested in. I would suggest Thanksgiving dinner as the venue for this. Perhaps you find out that they’re interested in not just pumpkin pie, but also anal. If they’ve never tried anal play, I would suggest the Fun Factory Bootie, a little silicone plug with a curved tip. It’s cute, small, and it has a great base.

Get the Fun Factory Bootie at SheVibeEarly to Bed, Smitten KittenGood Vibes, Babeland, or Come As You Are (Canada).

If they’re more well-versed in anal play, they’ll love the njoy Pure Plug, which is stainless steel, or the NobEssence Romp, which is wood. Both feel amazing and really have that “wow” factor when you open them because they’re so gorgeous.

Get the njoy Pure Plug at SheVibe, Early to Bed, Smitten KittenBabeland, Good VibesCome As You Are (Canada), or Lovehoney (international).

Get the NobEssence Romp at SheVibe.

LELO Luna Beads kegel balls

Say your companion mentions being intrigued by kegel exercisers. My favorites — and I’ve tried quite a few — are the LELO Luna Beads. These are inserted vaginally and can be worn around, to make mundane tasks less excruciating. Oh, yeah, and they tone the PC muscles, too. But mostly the sensation of the inner balls rolling around is just really fun.

Get the LELO Luna Beads at SheVibe, Babeland,, or Lovehoney (international).

Vixen Creations Woody dildoLELO Ella dildoDoc Johnson TruSkyn Tru Curve dildoTantus Slow Drive

Or maybe during this “casual conversation” they express interest in G-spot spelunking. Now, if they’re new to G-spot stimulation, a simple silicone dildo with a good curved or pronounced head will do the trick. I really like the Vixen Creations Woody (same mold as my beloved Mustang), LELO Ella (the first toy I ever squirted with!), Doc Johnson Tru Curve (made of squishy dual-density silicone), and the Tantus Slow Drive (with an intuitive base that helps you keep the toy G-spot-side-up).

Get the Vixen Creations Woody at SheVibe, Early to Bed, Babeland, or CAYA (Canada).

Get the LELO Ella at SheVibe.

Get the Doc Johnson TruSkyn Tru Curve at SheVibe.

Get the Tantus Slow Drive at Tantus.

njoy Pure Wand dildo NobEssence Seduction dildo  Jopen Comet II Wand

But if they’ve already found their G-spot and want to up the ante a bit — perhaps even learn to squirt — I absolutely adore the njoy Pure Wand, which is stainless steel, the lightweight NobEssence Seduction which is made of wood, and the Jopen Comet II Wand, which is silicone. Are you sensing a trend in the shapes here? All of them are basically G-spot homing missiles, so you can’t go wrong.

Get the njoy Pure Wand at SheVibe, Good Vibes, Babeland, Early to Bed, Smitten KittenCome As You Are (Canada), or Lovehoney (international).

Get the NobEssence Seduction at SheVibe.

Get the Jopen Comet II Wand at SheVibe or Good Vibes.


There’s a lot to know about sex toys, and it can be overwhelming, but it’s worth the extra research. For one, the sex toy industry is unregulated, so there are a lot of mystery meat materials out there that you want to avoid. A good rule of thumb is to look for toys made out of the same materials that are used in kitchen products: glass, stainless steel, 100% silicone, hard plastic, and sealed wood. These materials are non-porous and pure, so they can’t hold onto bacteria and they won’t leach chemicals into the body. You know something is leaching chemicals if it has a terrible smell, usually like a new shower curtain. Of course, I only ever recommend body-safe toys.

If you’re considering vibrators, it’s also useful to learn the difference between buzzy and rumbly vibrations. The quality of the vibration is just as important as the shape and features of the toy — probably even more so!

When you’re researching stuff, don’t be afraid to email me or other bloggers to get our advice or help you break a tie. We totally love that shit.


Pleasure Works Silver Bullet vibratorPleasure Works Diving Dolphin vibrator sleevePleasure Works Wild Hare vibrator sleeve
You can give an extra boost to something your partner already owns, or replace a toy they love with something even better. Pleasure Works makes a couple 100% silicone sleeves called the Diving Dolphin and Wild Hare, and those fit over any vibrator with a diameter of an inch or so. They fit perfectly over the Silver Bullet, which consequently is an excellent starter vibe, and they give it some extra grip, too, which is awesome.

Sleeves can be an inexpensive way to experiment and see what kind of stimulation someone prefers — just make sure they’re made of body-safe materials.

Vixen Creations VixSkin dildos

So, if your partner already has a favorite toy that’s made out of a questionable material, this is your chance to get one in a better material. That’s another thing that I love — when someone emails me wanting a body-safe version of something. It’s like a little game for my sex toy encyclopedic brain.

For example, if your partner owns a soft, smelly insertable toy, check out the dildos made by Vixen Creations. They have a dual-density pure silicone called VixSkin that is highly detailed, delightfully squishy, and will last a lifetime. I’m addicted to it, to put it mildly. Favorites include Buck, Mustang, and Maverick.

Browse Vixen Creations dildos at SheVibeBabeland, Good Vibes, Early to Bed, Smitten KittenCome As You Are (Canada), or Lovehoney (international).

Live in Australia? Downunder Toys makes realistic, dual-density dildos.

Fleshlight line-up

Speaking of upgrades… maybe your partner has a cheap masturbation sleeve or only uses their hand to jack off. You should definitely consider getting them a Fleshlight. My boyfriend is super picky about sleeves, but he loves the luscious material used to make Fleshlights… as do I (you can sometimes find me casually fingering one). There are about a million to choose from, from basic orifices to extremely detailed porn star vulvas. There’s even a build-your-own option.

Fun Factory Stronic G pulsator   Crystal Delights Crystal Twist dildo   Eroscillator     Womanizer Pro40

But what if the person you’re buying for already has a hefty sex toy collection? I’d suggest a toy that offers a truly unique sensation, and I would know which ones do because I have a very discerning vagina.

For starters, I suggest you check out Fun Factory’s Stronic line. These toys do not have traditional motors; they actually contain weights that move back and forth. Yes, like a Shake Weight. Except for your vagina. And a lot more useful. The Stronics are not cheap, but I think they’re worth it. And I don’t say that a lot about $200 toys.

Want something more analog? Look up Crystal Delights Crystal Twist. It’s oddly shaped, yet feels so wonderful because of it.

Get the Fun Factory Stronic of your choice at SheVibe, Good Vibes, Babeland, Smitten KittenFun FactoryLovehoney (international), or Come As You Are (Canada).

Get the Crystal Twist at Crystal Delights.

The clit toy realm has a few interesting options as well. Check out the legendary Eroscillator, which features oscillations — a type of subtle movement that feels deeper than vibrations — or the Womanizer, which stimulates using air flow. These are sensations you just can’t get with the average vibrator.

Get the Eroscillator at SheVibe, Smitten KittenGood Vibes, or Lovehoney (international).

Get the Womanizer at SheVibeGood VibesBabeland, or Lovehoney (international).

Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

If you want to veer off the traditional sex toy path, there’s always the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System. This thing basically turns any bed into a bondage playground, complete with both wrist and ankle cuffs. And when you’re done, you can just toss the straps and cuffs under the mattress, effectively hiding them away from your kids… or in my case, my cats.

Get the Under the Bed Restraint System at Good VibesBabeland, Smitten Kitten, or Lovehoney (international).

Sliquid lube is the best

Finally, I must mention lube! It’s the best. Everyone should use it. My favorite brand is Sliquid, because all of their lubes are glycerin- and paraben- free. I say get some lube samples and stuff them in a stocking. Plus then you can do a lube flight and find out what both of you like.

Get Sliquid lubes at Sliquid directly, SheVibe, Smitten KittenBabeland, Good Vibes, Come As You Are (Canada), or Lovehoney (international).


Smitten Kitten gift card

If you can’t decide, or if I’m overwhelming you with suggestions, see if your favorite sex shop does gift certificates (hint: Smitten KittenGood Vibes, Babeland, SheVibe, Early to Bed, and Come As You Are all do). One thing you can do is make a list of potential toys to show your partner — you could even put together a sex toy brochure or menu or something — but leave the final say up to them. This shows that you put some effort and research into it, but ultimately you’re giving them the reins. People love having the reins.

So there you have it — hopefully these tips will help you avoid getting the side-eye from your gift recipient. Well, hopefully you’ll get the opposite of the side-eye… uh, whatever that is. Something good.

Where should you shop? My favorite stores are
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Babeland, Smitten Kitten, CAYA (Canada), and Lovehoney (international)!

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