Oct 122017
 

A decade of sex blogging. Cupcake butt plug and Shilo.

Cupcake butt plug and Shilo.

The cliché is true — it feels like just yesterday and like forever ago. This week marks 10 years since I first published a review of a sex toy on the internet.

It was fall 2007, my junior year of college. That summer, I’d moved out of the dorms and into my first apartment. I was 20 years old, almost 21. If you’d asked me what my career was going to be, I would’ve hesitated and posited, “…writer? I hope?” A cautious optimism underneath which lied a practical fear. A fear that I could never make a living with writing, that I’d end up in an office job, probably, and that the only skill I’d spent my life cultivating would eventually be relegated to a hobby. It was just a matter of when.

But life doesn’t always go the way you think it will, even if you have little perception of how it will.

When you go to college, “sex blogger” isn’t exactly presented as a potential career option. I majored in English, having scant other abilities aside from writing. Bless my liberal arts education, though, which forced me to take Gender Studies classes. I came alive in those classes. I became a different person — a better, more aware person. I wrote a paper about sex toy usage. I shot a low-budget sex ed video for a feminist theory course.1 For a big research project, I remember driving all around town asking sex shops if they stocked various porn DVDs. I was looking for films that had won Feminist Porn Awards, which I then meticulously analyzed for markers of degradation and intimacy.

It was with this budding interest in sexuality that I stumbled upon a call for toy reviewers on a retailer’s website. A total fluke, but the timing was right. It sounded like a fun diversion from the tedium of academia, a good way to experience sex toys without having to pay for them, and a more relaxed form of writing than the stuffy papers I was churning out. I signed up.

My vagina wasn’t as all-knowing then as it is now. In fact, it knew very little. Growing up, I got my orgasms from the bathtub faucet, then a few questionable sex toys. I remember the sense of scandal I felt as I went to my college mailroom to pick up my first real vibrator. I hadn’t had penetrative sex yet, and wouldn’t for several months more. Although I’d been dating my boyfriend for over two years, I had been brainwashed by abstinence-only sex ed. I was unnecessarily obsessed over getting pregnant, concerned it was going to hurt.

Like anyone new to sex toys, I bought into myths that quickly proved false. That wooden toys would give me splinters, that everything needed to vibrate in order to be worthwhile. I made excuses for arguably shitty products. I thought toxic toys weren’t a big deal. Once, embarrassingly, I complained that a glass dildo felt uncomfortable when I used it UNDERWATER. I referred to my genitals as my “pussy” because I felt like that was expected of me.

Basically, I didn’t know what the fuck I was doing.

But do any of us, really, at the beginning of anything? I’ve waffled on whether to count that year of reviews pre-blog, never sure whether I’ve been doing this for 9 years now or 10, but you know what? That year mattered. As bad as those reviews are, they were necessary. They were inevitable, unavoidable. I cringe at them now, but there’s a certain adorable cluelessness within them.

As I reviewed more and more, I began pondering the idea of starting my own blog. I’d always figured sex blogging wasn’t for me — I didn’t have hot sex stories to share with the world; my writing does not aim to titillate. But maybe I could do it my way? Focus on straightforward reviews of sex toys?

I’ll try it, I thought. See how it goes.

Just a hobby: the early years

I started my blog in fall 2008. I connected with a few companies who were willing to send me toys for review and procrastinated from my homework by masturbating. I filled my purple toybox with vibrators. I made online friends and watched porn with them. All the while I wrote into the abyss, about futuristic cock ringspornstars and politics, sex toy shamingmansplainers.

 Me at a coffee shop, just a couple months after I started reviewing. Working in bed, surrounded by cats.

Blogging wasn’t paying the bills, but I never thought it would. I made a grand total of $3.99 in my first year, from affiliate links in my reviews. About a penny per day.

While blogging gave me an outlet for my writing and my opinions, sex toys were teaching me what my body was capable of. After many months of painful penetration, my steadfast dedication to reviewing insertable toys was paying off. The G-spot, that fabled thing, actually existed. One night, as I was testing a dildo with a unique flat tip, a new sensation began to develop in my body. I felt like I needed to pee.

Without the internet and my immersion in the sex toy world, I would not have known what to do with that feeling. I would’ve ignored it, probably, or attempted to stave it off. Instead, I knew it was a precursor to squirting. I thrust harder with the dildo, and sure enough: I gushed all over the towel under me.

It was the beginning of a beautiful relationship with my G-spot.

Sex toy reviewing pushed me, challenged me, encouraged me to venture outside my comfort zone. I tried anal play, kegel exercise, cock rings, all kinds of sex toy materials. I tested no-name toys and toys with cult followings. At that time, USB rechargeability was a new phenomenon, big sex toy manufacturers were just discovering silicone, and the Hitachi Magic Wand didn’t make sense to me. I watched porn that I wasn’t into and found other stuff that was hot as fuck.

Most notably, I conquered my largest dildo yet. My vagina had made great progress.

Sex toys taking over my desk, as I attempted to organize them. 2010.

Around this time, my few industry connections led me to meet with two local women who were opening a sex shop in my city. I pretended my minuscule blog was evidence of my qualifications, and they… believed me. I was hired part-time, despite having zero retail experience. I was their first employee.

It still seemed odd that anyone knew about my blog, let alone cared. But somehow they did. Sex educator Tristan Taormino came to town to teach and asked to have breakfast with me, wanting to hire me to handle her social media. I’ll never forget standing outside the restaurant at the end of our meeting. “You’re so much nicer in person!” she exclaimed.

I felt immeasurably complimented. Online, I could be myself. Just as honest and snarky as I truly am. I’m an introvert, and as a kid I was often described as “shy” — a word that masked my feisty, opinionated nature. Unlike in life, where I’d fumble over my words, online I could take my time and hone my phrasing. It was validating. It felt like home.

My blog was evolving, too, even if I couldn’t see it. In January of 2012, I looked back at my income spreadsheet from the previous year and realized something remarkable: I was making money with this gig. Not an astronomical amount, but enough to cover living expenses and food each month.

Could I do this… as a career?

The coming out era

My parents still didn’t know I was a sex blogger. I swear, it made sense at the time. Back when blogging was solely a hobby, it didn’t seem necessary to tell them. Besides, I feared my mom’s overzealous snooping. Part of me bought into our sex-negative culture, and I was convinced I didn’t want her reading intimate details about my vagina.

But I needed to tell them. So I finally built up the courage to do it.

Being completely honest with my parents gave me the confidence to put myself out there even more. In 2013 I traveled alone for the first time in my life, all the way to the east coast for a sexuality conference. I met people who, up until that moment, had only existed online. I introduced myself as Epiphora. I chatted with the man who made the best G-spot dildo, the woman behind one of my favorite companies. Having no idea what I looked like, many people told me they “pictured [me] goth,” which still cracks me up.

It was terrifying and it was wonderful.

Meeting people scared me, so I taught myself to do it anyway. At conferences, I perfected the art of luring strangers to my hotel room with promises of wine and camaraderie. Simply being in a hotel room with other sex bloggers was a revelation. It was like seeing old friends, even with folks I’d never met. We stayed up so late laughing and bonding. Sleep would mean less time with these amazing people; I couldn’t justify it.

Can I live in this moment forever? Girly Juice, Red Hot Suz, and I composing a tweet. Photo by Rae.

Can I live in this moment forever? Girly Juice, Red Hot Suz, and I composing a tweet. Photo by Rae.

My second conference was an even bigger turning point. I presented a panel to a standing-room-only crowd. I awkwardly ate sushi next to one of my favorite pornstars. After watching a riotous sex storytelling show, I hitched a ride home with none other than the legendary Midori. (I would’ve never had the balls to ask normally, but I was desperate not to get stranded in downtown LA.)

It all felt like a dream I’d stumbled into.

But it wasn’t a dream. I’d earned it. I’d written 500 blog posts, for god’s sake. There was rarely a day when I didn’t work on my blog. Over the years I’d become more business-minded: selling advertising on my site, utilizing affiliate links faithfully, promoting sales. The numbers couldn’t lie: 80% of my income came from my blog, and now it was exceeding my baseline cost of living by quite a lot. Sex blogging had become my job. My job job.

I was leveling up my sex toy experience, too. I began having more orgasms per masturbation session, laughing in the face of my refractory period. I learned more about my preferences — my clit is a lefty, I hate rabbit vibes, I prefer glossy silicone over matte. Rumbly vibrations are the best and straddling toys is the worst. “Couples” toys are almost always a mistake. The Hitachi is actually awesome.

Circle of laptops at #dildoholiday, with sex toys and cat in the middle.Meanwhile, my circle of sex blogger friends was growing exponentially. Now I even had friends in my city. They’d come over to my apartment, drink rum mixed with orange juice, ride my Sybian, and talk shit about sex toy companies with me. We started taking short vacations together, filling our days with productive blog writing, photo-taking, and toy testing, and our nights with games, laughs, and bad sex documentaries. #dildoholiday became a tradition.

When the next conference rolled around, my friends and I decided to organize a small sex party. It was perfect timing, because I had my eye on a very cute fellow blogger named Aerie. In that hotel room, in front of our friends, we had sex for the first time. Playful, sweet, awkward, perfect sex.

Afterward, the whole room applauded us and one of my friends said, “um, I have something to tell you… I think you’re gay.”

Community, connection, and opening up

I’ve always been queer, but there were many years where that part of me fell by the wayside. It wasn’t on purpose — I started dating my boyfriend when I was still in high school, and monogamy was the default. But he knew I was attracted to everyone, and he knew I craved more diverse sexual experiences. After 8 years together, we decided to open our relationship.

Holding Aerie's hand at a restaurant in Las Vegas.Aerie and I started dating and exploring together. It was like learning how to have sex all over again. Their vulva, and majestic labia, entranced me. Their fingers on my clit and against my G-spot were magical. I discovered how much I love dildo blowjobs, the sound and the view. I finally put my harness to good use. We traveled to AVN together, getting a taste of the ridiculous Vegas show we’d heard so much about.

Somehow, I came upon this thing called “financial security.” In 2014, thanks in large part to my blog’s success, my boyfriend and I bought a house. After 7 years of toiling at my desk in the living room of my apartment, I finally had the office of my dreams — and a closet dedicated to my sex toy collection.

With each toy, and each post, I evolved. I discovered hands-free orgasms and lube dispensers and allowed someone to control my vibrator from across the country. I bought a better camera and taught myself how to use it. I funneled my rage into posts about body-shaming marketingvibrating teddy bears, G-spot misinformation. Turns out, the Hitachi is life-changing… but “couples” toys are still a mistake.

I now fully believed in my work — and saw it as work. My writing was published in a book and I started teaching an online class for aspiring sex bloggers. Then, one night after I filmed my 2015 April Fool’s video, I was taking some selfies and looking cute when I spontaneously decided to put my face on the internet. There wasn’t much fanfare, nor did I want any. It was simple: anonymity was no longer serving me.

Table of dildos and laptops at #dildoholiday in Oregon.That year marked the most epic #dildoholiday thus far, as a handful of sex bloggers rented a house on the Oregon coast. We taught each other blogging skills, blew our own glass dildos, ate pizza while making fun of Fifty Shades, and accumulated enough inside jokes to last a lifetime.

It was like any normal friend hangout, except for all the porn watching, side-by-side masturbating, pubic hair comparing, sex toy sharing, and late-night fingering.

Nothing about it felt weird. In fact, it felt revolutionary.

So when my co-workers invited me to a sex party the next year, I had precedent. I found myself in a circle of people, going around the room describing our desires, playing consent-based Spin the Lube Bottle. That night, I fisted someone for the first time, and it was one of the most incredible sexual experiences of my life. “You are a miracle!” I exclaimed as my entire hand disappeared into her vagina.

We all felt it that night: the transformative power of fucking your friends. We gave our group a name — the femme sex coven — and our parties have become a fixture of my sex life. Together, we are modeling radical consent, body positivity, and vulnerability. Eye contact. Cuddles and reassurance. Soft kisses and hard smacks. We are redefining the boundaries of friendship. We are showing each other unconditional love.

All roads lead to dildos

What would have been the trajectory of my life, if not for sex blogging? Who would I have been? I don’t have the faintest idea, and there’s no use guessing. This job has impacted everything, from my relationship to masturbation and sex to my bank account to the company I keep.

Outtake from my header image photoshoot. Sex toys all over my Throe.

After 10 years and a collection of over 600 toys, my vagina has become all-powerful and proudly picky. I know what I like and what I don’t — no more boring rod dildos for me, no more strapless strap-ons, no vibration patterns. Give me a goddamn G-spot curve or some texture, at least. Give me a good, simple vibrator. Don’t try to dictate when I can have my orgasms. Stop bugging my cervix. And for the love of all that is good and holy, don’t claim your sex toy is “the first ____” when it is definitely not. I’m too jaded for that shit.

Chowder making my life hard, as per usual.As tough as this job can be, it is a job I carved out entirely for myself — and I’m proud to tell people what I do. I test sex toys and write about it, and somehow the world trusts my opinions enough to buy stuff, and somehow that earns me a comfortable living. I work from home, in pajama pants with a cat on my lap. I’m writing. I’m making money writing. The thing I thought impossible.

Sex blogging taught me to trust my opinions — and my body. And it brought me to all of you.

Every single person who has ever emailed me or messaged me on social media to thank me. Every person who has recognized me and said hello. My parents, whose pride in my blog continues to astonish and humble me. My friends, mentors, heroes. I can’t possibly name all the people who’ve influenced my journey as a blogger, and I realize what an enormous gift that is. So many times I’ve laughed until my cheeks hurt, until I cried, putting my head on the shoulder of the person next to me — a friend I would not have if not for this.

Thank you all.

  1. I’m still impressed with myself for convincing my professor that was a worthwhile final project. []
  • As a long-time reader, I love this post so much. Congratulations on the milestone and the success! You’ve taught me so much and I blog today because of you. Thank you for being you. <3

  • You’re so wonderful and it’s been a true honor to call you a friend.

  • C. Poly

    Very inspiring. Makes me want to take your class to learn your secrets. It’s oddly reassuring that despite your straightforward, no-nonsense attitude on your blog, that you started out shy. I’ve been reading on and off for some time. I think since around 2012-ish. I think I found you after they-who-shall-not-be-named crashed for the final time.

  • Katie Harrowell

    I have followed you for a few years now. You have really shown me how to open up sexually and for that I am thankful. I am still learning, the ingrained shit our families fill us with is hard to throw off completely but I am getting there. The fact that your posts are so bloody hilarious is just another reason to love you!

  • Congratulations on ten years of reviewing! My how the industry has changed over our years. I wish I had your positive attitude about my earliest reviews! I hate mine SO much. Can you imagine how different sex toys will be in 10 years? Will blogs still be relevant? It seems like a world I can’t imagine. Have loved seeing your life over the years and look forward to more!

  • Ha, well, I think my early reviews are terrible but I also cut myself some slack because I knew nothing — both about toys themselves and about writing a good sex toy review.

  • Sara

    This was fantastic to read:)
    You really are an inspiration! Way to go and keep at it, I hope one day you will be a household name!

  • Cat

    The cupcake butt plug actually isn’t discontinued! The shop has been open on Etsy for a bit now!

    Also, happy ten years! Here’s to many more!

  • Jeez, I can’t keep up with these Etsy sellers. When I bought it the shop was claiming to be shutting down.

  • Indigo Byrd

    Thanks Epiphora. Yours was one of the first blogs I encountered after I started buying sex toys about five months ago. I have mentioned your blog on toxic sex toys in my rave about wise sex toy bloggers and linked to you on Pinterest and Twitter. I loved reading how you started and progressed, and stuff about what you learned along the way. Happy Anniversary and keep on blogging for years to come!
    PS I love your feline friend “helping” you blog.
    Indie x

  • Pantophile Panic

    You changed my life and helped me find myself in more ways than one. I will always be grateful to you, and look up to you as a role model. Thank you for being an awesome person all these years. I can’t wait to see what’s next!

  • Cat

    They shut down for a while (seems like there was maybe some drama), but opened back up eventually. Not sure what the situation is now, but at least the cupcake is still available!

  • Salina Drachen

    I can warmly recommend the class. I’m taking it now, in the middle of an incredibly stressful time of my life, and in addition to learning tons of useful stuff that I had not even realized is important, I can feel the support and camaraderie from both the teachers and my classmates helping me keep afloat. Epiphora and JoEllen rock! <3

  • Salina Drachen

    All of this^ from me, too. <3

  • Stabbin Robots

    You’re awesome, Piph! Thanks for bringing us all along on your journey.

  • Laurie

    What an awesome read! Congrats on 10 years!

  • Brenda Marie

    Congrats on ten years! Thank you for sharing all this… I love your blog, and you’re fucking inspiring. That is all. 😉

  • LorraLisa

    Sharing in your antics, even as a passive reader, is exciting. I could never tire of hearing your perspective. When I get notification that you have a new post up. I’m here. Here’s to your 10 year anniversary and I hope you have 10 more!

  • I’m merely, just one, of the undoubtable multitude of lives your work, here on this blog, has touched. It’s hard to sum up in the space of a comment how much your little corner of the internet has impacted my life. I found Hey Epiphora during a time of my life when things weren’t exactly the best. I knew I could always come here to take my mind off of the daily struggles. From there grew a desire to have a platform of my very own to reach out to other folks that may be struggling in their own way. Anyway, thanks for the laughs, the advice, and the inspiration!

  • I can’t recommend it enough!

  • “Helpful,” yes, indeed, that is him, very “helpful.”

  • No, YOU’RE awesome! Thanks for following for all these years!

  • That’s really sweet of you to say, thank you.

  • tenzen

    I started following a few years ago. I bought a couple toys based on your recommendations and love them, I’ve directed people to the blog when they’re looking for a toy, I learned about my body and toxic toys and it’s all because of your blog. Still haven’t squirted, but maybe it’ll happen once I grab the Pure Wand?

  • I hope so!

  • Fuzzy

    Me: 57-years old, by appearance southern white male from a rural background.

    You: Someone whose word on sex toys is taken as gospel. Human sexuality has been a primary avocation for over 38 years now, and you are one of no more than 3 folks who review sex toys that I’m willing to just believe. Thank you.

  • Undercover sex nerd!

  • Mia More

    Jesus, is it ten years already?! Congratulations, Chick (and please, for the love of good dildos slow that time right down…)!
    Sapphic Sybian snogs,
    Mia x

  • Indigo Byrd

    It’s part of the feline job description I think…

  • bzzingbee

    Thank you for all your testing and sharing and your story. You definitely made an impact on my life. Even though I haven’t really been active in the sex toy reviewing community in the last several years (so much life happened), you taught me so much about being a reviewer and I still value those lessons and use my tools of critical evaluation often. Because I found someone who inspired me to wholly embrace my interest in reviewing and exploring a world outside my own, I know myself so much better than before. And like you, my vag knows what it likes and won’t be bothered with the time-wasting of things I know I won’t like. And, after all this time, when I’m in the market for something new, I still return to your blog during my research phase of toy shopping. Thanks for all you’ve done and all you will do down the road!

  • You ROCK! A friend showed me your blog back in 2012 and I’ve been an avid reader ever since. You’ve got an wonderful writing style and a flare for social media that makes your work a joy to read. I’m glad we have you to count on as someone who will challenge the status quo of the industry and always stand up for what you believe in! I for one can’t wait to see where you go from here! xoxo

  • Miss Devo

    You’re awesome, thanks for all the work you put in helping us broaden our horizons. One of my closest friends directed me here and ever since then I’ve taken to sharing your blog every chance I get with friends, strangers, even ended up directing my sister here. It made for a pretty neat bonding experience and couldn’t have happened at a better time, right as she was getting into her first serious relationship (her partner is great and they are sickeningly cute together).
    I hope that I’ll be able to take your course on Sex Blogging sometime in the near future. Congratulations on a great run so far, looking forward to more. 😀

  • I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since you’ve been writing! I have to say, your blog helped me discover a passion for the sex toy industry, and if I didn’t have my day job, I would be tempted to try and either work for one of these companies (looking at you, She-Vibe, you’re about an hour away) or maybe starting my own business. One day maybe… current career would Not Allow this to occur unfortunately.

  • Christine

    I stumbled across you during a random google search for reviews on… I can’t even remember now. But I was immediately captivated by your wit, and started reading more and more of your reviews. Now it’s been years, and I can’t imagine my life without all the things I’ve discovered through you. Happy 10th sweetie. Here’s to the next 10.

  • Kristine Nicole Duran

    Thank you for running such an amazing blog. Your dedication and passion makes this such an enjoyable blog to come to. You’ve helped me so much over the years.

  • Valiziosa

    I just started this journey in my country, Italy: it’s fun but it gets hard too sometimes. But with fiery examples as you and your girlfriends I feel less alone and a part of a great world-wide community. Congrats for your 10th anniversary!

  • Ethan

    Thank you for your work 🙂 You’re such a great resource and value to the community. Congrats on 10 years!

  • WolfieDee

    Your reviews are hardly ever wrong. ;-P

  • I only knew about you last year, but I learned quickly to love your writing! And yes… some of us trust you so much that before buying anything I first check your blog.

  • LegwarmerCrusader

    Ten more years! Ten more years!

  • Kimberlee Dirkson

    I will always come back to this site for your educational posts and general kickassness. Really appreciate your humour opening my perspective on things queer, sexy, and human

  • chloe

    Your blog has been such a source of joy and information and hilarity every since I started reading it about four years ago. Thank you!

  • Lythari

    This is a pretty awesome milestone! Congrats on doing such an awesome job for such a significant amount of time!

  • Your femme sex coven is everything I like to imagine my life would be, were I more comfortable with public sexuality. Female friends are so important, and I feel it every time we get our gender mafia on and take time to ourselves away from other intrusions.

  • Joclynn Gonzalez

    Cant believe it’s been 10 years!

  • Emily

    One of my favorite blogs. So glad I found you so many years ago!

  • Eve

    I honestly couldn’t tell you when exactly I started reading your blog, or what it was that brought me here in the first place, but I will never regret it. It’s been an honor and a privilege to be allowed to get a peek into the experiences you’ve had and the things that you do through your writing, and I’m so grateful that you’re here to give us all the chance to learn and ask questions and experiment and try new things in a space that really is welcoming to all. Congrats, happy anniversary, and here’s to what’s still yet to come!

  • Rocket

    Much love, and congrats to you!

  • Brieanna

    Just so many things your reviews have taught me…I couldn’t list them all!
    Most recently you’ve helped me in the direction of trowing away pads for periods…which I hope to do as soon as possible! Thanks again!

  • Stephanie Iadanza

    A few years ago I found your blog and now I am just a loyal follower! Thank you so much for your ongoing shares!! I love them!

  • Jason Bohan

    I am just encountering your blog but am excited to read more. Happy 10 years

  • Karol Biernat

    Congratz! There’s no better blog about sex toys, I’m always up to read some new articles 🙂

  • Mya

    Congrats on this milestone!
    Thank you for writing such great reviews, and sharing so much important information with us.

  • Fodra Sun

    It’s strange thinking how long I’ve followed your reviews. I started reading them in 2012 I believe, right after I started buying toys. I had no idea what I liked, and I remember wishing I could try some of the toys you did. I used to buy a ton of cheap but safe toys and I was always disappointed. Then I started reading reviews, and learned what I needed. All of my favorite toys are ones I bought because of your reviews. I may not buy as many toys but now I mainly like what I get. I haven’t regretted a purchase in years and that’s all because of great reviewers like you.

    Mind you, that’s just products I bought. I’ve learned so much from reading your reviews, and gotten a lot of laughs. If I’m bored I tend to go back and read old reviews where you just tear into something terrible. It’s a great way to cheer myself up. So, congrats on 10 years and thanks for all the entertainment you’ve provided me in the time I’ve read your blog.

  • Stephanie Catrone Tucker

    congrats on 10 years

  • catherine wall

    Follow your moist dreams ❤

  • Shadowkate

    Wow ten years! Congratulations! This blog has helped shaped who I am now (yes really) and made me so much more comfortable discussing toys and masturbation with people.

  • HeadlessLegoMom

    Dear Epiphora,

    I don’t know where my vagina would be without you. Well, I know where it would be anatomically, but not in terms of pleasure and satisfaction. Thank you so much from the bottom of my G-spot (which definitely does exist) for all of the cervix poking and various other genital discomforts (torture?) you have endured in vain for the sake of our orgasms.

  • Zelos

    i’ve been following your blog for a couple of years now and it continues to be my favorite! i’ve become a way more sex-positive person since discovering you, and i’m excted for many more years to come!!

  • vrittis

    Congrats! I only discovered your blog a short time ago, but I often read for ideas and suggestions for my wife and I. Thank you and here’s to a bright, pleasant and kiny future!

  • Lindsey

    You helped me find Lelo and BadDragon toys. You are my main source for the toys I buy. Happy 10 years! Thank you so much! <3

  • Orlanda

    Congratulations on reaching that huge milestone!!
    I’ve been reading you for 2 years now, enjoying your funy, touching, nuanced, witty writing, and I’m loving the journey.
    Best memory? don’t know for sure but I was soooo happy to see the picture of all your bloody toys from a bleeding masturbation session, yay periode sex!!
    Very much hope to be there for the next decade 😉

  • Emily

    i love reading your reviews, but my absolute favorite part of reading your blog is reading about the friendships you’ve made through this work. i’m in awe of your sex positive friendship group (in particular, the femme sex coven!). thanks for doing all that you do!

  • thelastunicorn17

    I really loved reading this. I’m in the middle of an existensial crisis about my future and career, and I am delighted to see how things worked out for you. Thank you so much for being open to sharing your life and your experiences with all of us.

  • Stabbin Robots

    If you think about it (maybe don’t) you’re like the fairy godmother of orgasms.

    HALLOWEEN COSTUME!

  • trix23

    Like all the greats, you make it look easy. Yet, the sheer thoroughness, descriptive quality, and just plain HUMANITY in your posts prove that it is not. Even though I feel the need to keep a lot of this close to the vest in my life, I’m so grateful to and inspired by your willingness to be open and generous where we usually hold back!

  • KinkyKittenKim

    Congrats on your 10 years! Your blog spurred me on to make my own 3 years later i’m still here but i cannot compare to your awsomness! Your straight up sarcasm and whit is just straight to the point and thats what keeps me reading your posts!

  • Stephanie Nicole

    so happy to find such a rad body positive + gender/sexuality inclusive blogger!! can’t wait to hear more of what you have to say.

  • Elsie Carroll

    Congratulations on ten wonderful years, and here’s to 10 more!

  • Bahar Ríghteous Baharloo

    this is such a vulnerable, honest, downright fuzzy feelings post. Straight up dildo hygge. How do I cultivate my own #dildoholiday with my homies? Major congrats on the anniversary, and kudos on carving out a heavenly corner of what is increasingly more “fake news” riddled, the internet. Here’s to 10 more!

  • OttawaEd

    Always interesting, always funny, this blog will never be a victim of the “Click of Unsubscription!”

  • Emily

    This is my first venture into sex toys, and this seems like a really good place to start!

  • Rin

    I think that Teddy Love review was the first post of yours that I ever read. Certainly got me hooked to your raging wit, that’s for sure!

    Through your blog, you’ve introduced me to a lot of amazing brands. I knew about Tantus and Vixen Creations, but I probably never would’ve come across the likes of Crystal Delights or SelfDelve on my own. I love reading all your posts, old and new alike, and it’s amazing to hear how you’ve managed to turn a hobby you love into your career! Here’s to hopefully many more years of snark!

  • Georgina Mullane

    Thank you Epiphora, for all that you do. As someone who works in the adult industry as well, I know how complicated it can be to sometimes get the right information across without coming across as a know it all. But you do it so effortlessly, in a way everyone can comprehend and this matters. I am a trainer at my current position and I also have been teaching advanced sexual education seminars for a local college for a few years now. I recommend your blog to new employees and students because your information is honest, reliable, and consistent. For anything new that has come in, I look to you as one of my first resources and I trust your opinions. I reference you and I am grateful for the ability to do so. So keep on keepin on because a lot of us look forward to reading your blog!

  • Jaime

    I don’t know how thoughtful this comment is, but I think what made me stick around this site after I first got here is because the way you write is just so engaging! Not only have I learned a lot, but you’re always entertaining about it all, and I never, ever get enough of your cats. 😀

  • Ritchie Yaure

    I’m so impressed at how much you’ve managed to achieve with this blog over ten years. I love it even more because you stuck at doing something that’s so far from a traditional job, and you made it work so so well. I’m trying to do a similar thing with art, and it gives me hope to see your work and your success. To another ten years!

  • AmeKitsune

    Happy 10th Anniversary! You’re a star!

  • Barrie

    Wow, what a great 10 years you have of growth and an amazing blog! I’m astounded by the amount of sex toys you have.!

  • Appa

    Your posts have always had the right combination of thoughtful, social justice-minded analysis, technical knowledge, and incisive Real Talk (which is why your negative reviews are SO. MUCH. fun to read). Since I started reading, I’ve come out in various ways and transitioned, and as my identity and body have shifted, I’ve kept returning to read up on your opinions. =D

  • SickRose

    Your photography (and dildo closet) are inspirations to me and your journey through all of this gives me so much hope. I’ve experienced my own similar paths in the sex toy world as well as learning about my own desires both in sexual terms and my relationships, and sometimes I feel very alone about it. You even inspired me to try to start writing again! It’s been a slow road, but I couldn’t have done it without you.

  • Sister Genie

    Happy Anniversary, Hey Epiphora! Looking forward to diving into your blog and catching up!!

  • poesieplease

    Congratulations on 10 years! I’ve enjoyed getting to know your blog since I discovered it a few weeks ago. The stuff you write about sex toys is awesome, but the way you’ve built a career as a writer is equally awesome!

  • Jannnineish

    Congrats on a decade! 1 decade ago, I was learning to sew on a machine and planning my future fashion line. Now I’m a geologist. Crazy how fast time moves!

  • z1llion

    I come from a very sex-shaming, don’t-ask-don’t-tell, “don’t even THINK about it until you are married, then HAVE AT IT but don’t let on that you are”, masturbators-go-to-hell culture. When I got married, I suddenly realized how much I LOVE sex! But I was ashamed of it. Slowly, over the years, I have become more comfortable with my body and its needs, though I feel like I still have a long way to go. I just found your blog today (from someone sharing your giveaway) and have already read a bunch of reviews. I’m excited to say that this blog will be helping me reach the next step in my journey to having the sex life I want and feeling great about it! Thanks for all you do!

  • Crystalline

    This post is incredible and empowering–and that’s what your name has become synonymous with for so many people: empowerment.

  • Kalliopeia

    I read this in my inbox when it was first posted, but I gotta say, the cat pics add a whole ‘nother layer of charm. Congrats!

  • Ken F.

    Someone I’m no longer friends with linked me to you in roughly 2012 because I was looking for butt plugs that weren’t black. I’ve spent a lot of nights going through your backlogs and just reading all the information I can wrap my brain around because I’m a black hole for new knowledge. I wish I could write like you or just be as brave as you by sex blogging in general. Keep being awesome~

  • ilanaonida

    I’m currently in the process of figuring out where I’m going with my life, both job-wise and everything else wise a couple years after college, and reading about you finding your way hit me really hard tonight. I’m currently in the middle of the interview process with a company for a job that is about a hundred miles outside my comfort zone but which I think might be really good? It’s pretty different from the path you took, but it’s really inspiring to be reminded that it’s possible to make stuff work even when it’s scary. Thank you again?

  • Third-ed??? It’s a great class taught by great instructors.

  • thePirateQueenKt

    Boy this was a journey of a read (and now to read the dozen or so linked posts I opened in others tabs)

  • Cinnamonreign

    I love that you followed a passion and created a really neat job for yourself. I found myself super impressed with the idea of hiding tiny dildos and having Boris present that challenge- (I haven’t had a chance to look yet but) its a really fun challenge and must have been quite a lot of work. I appreciate your scientific rigor and tendency for strong feelings about toys. When I’m not just impulse buying, I appreciate consulting your wisdom and clever phrasing.

  • thedickwizard

    This filled me with a lot of feelings. It’s been so great to see the industry change and develop, and seeing what you have to say about the weird and wild new things that are being invented!

  • Ixzianna

    This is the best!
    Congrats on 10 years!!

  • Grey

    Bless you for giving me the knowledge that I wasn’t the only one experiencing things like you used to.

  • Elizabeth Tseng

    I’ve only stumbled across this blog about 2-3 years ago. Since then, I have more than quadrupled the amount of toys I own thanks to your reviews! I can’t imagine what my closet would look like had I found this 10 years ago….

  • April

    Reading your reflections always fills me with this sort of warm tingly feeling. It’s weird that I’ve followed your blog for so long! I’m not even sure when I started, but I’m really glad I did. You’ve changed the sex toy industry for the better in so many ways, and I can’t wait until you’re making your next anniversary post. Many more!

  • Kiara

    It’s great to hear how far you’ve come, and I hope you keep blogging for years to come! I know this blog has been invaluable to me in exploring my sexuality, and I’m sure it has been to other people as well. Keep up the good work!

  • ShriektheMighty

    My favourite thing is you talking about your old reviews and how far you’ve come on your vagina journey because honestly, #Relatable

  • Katy

    Reading this entry took me a good two hours clicking through most of your links, but that’s not a complaint! I enjoyed this journey from sex toy virgin/newb to connoisseur. Your blog is a go to resource for not only me, but my husband too. Thank you!

  • USACelt

    Quite the journey. Congratulations on 10 years and best wishes for next 10 plus. I said somewhere else and will say it again, thanks.

  • jnxxiii

    I’ve bought a good few toys based on your reviews (and many more on the wishlist!) and I can safely say they all changed my life for the better. Thanks for what you do.

  • My hero. So much admiration for you.

  • Jasper J Moon

    Happiest of anniversaries!

  • Abbey Atwater

    If it weren’t for the writing, this would be my dream job!

  • Danny Smith

    this is such a great origin story. congrats!

  • okami_hu

    Congrats, and I wish you ten more years of exploration and mind-blowing orgasms. =3

  • Maddy

    I just discovered you blog, but it already means so much to me! Keep it up, change people’s sex lives 🙂

  • Mikhail_Sergeevich

    Huge congrats! It was a long way. How about next 10 years?

  • Gia

    Such an amazing story! Here’s to the next 10 years!!

  • cris

    I’ve been quietly following your blog for a couple of years now. It’s such a useful and affirming resource for me, and I wish I was brave enough to recommend it to others more often. Thank you!

  • Ash1333

    Huge congrats on a decade of helping people be better informed and (in my case) more confident in the sex toy game. I used to be embarrassed about even talking about things like this, but now I’m more confident than ever, and have even referred some other people your way to help them make better sex toy decisions (read: to not buy crappy jelly products! Ick!). You rock Piph!

  • Fanch1

    Hi ! 😀
    I’m discovering you through this giveaway contest, it’s a great blog you have here, glad i found it ! ^^

  • Leah

    Thank you for everything

  • Meigh McPants

    It’s been so much fun reading along with your testing (and it’s super fun when you hate something!) Thanks for everything!

  • Emma

    This is probably my favourite post of yours you’ve ever made. It’s really awesome seeing how far you’ve come, and it makes me feel hopeful about my future.

  • justsingjazz

    I’ve been reading your blog for 5 years now and you have truly taught me so much about the world of toys and have brought the njoy purewand into my life (THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU) as well as the Mona2 and the Tantus Splash. My vagina thanks you immensely.

  • Sterlling Pedersen

    This is amazing. I just discovered you, and am very, very new to sex toys. I’ve never even used any, although I would like to. I’m excited to go through and see what you’ve done!

  • KMleen

    What I really enjoy about your blog is how easily your humour and sarcasm flow through the reviews. Many sex blogs, though generally informative, tend to be very dry. It’s not surprising if many people’s writing becomes rote and dry doing so many sex toy reviews (particularly because so many toys are pretty samey).

    However, I have never skimmed through your posts. They exude so much personality and craftsmanship that it’s a joy to get updates in my inbox. You show an additional passion to this work, with your writing skill uplifting the core content you put out.‎

  • Kaz

    You were one of the first blogs I stumbled upon when I started my job at a local sex+ store. You are a blog I tots suggest to customers looking for good review sites.

  • Bradley Balach

    Thank you so much for doing all this work for us.

  • The Palimpsex

    echoing former classmate and fellow blogger Backwoods Bedroom’s sentiments. you’ve been such an incredible inspiration during some of the more difficult times of my life. thank you for your commitment to this blog.

  • Anne Marie Feige

    So many years so many toys… so many fails. I just hope my vag isnt dead inside from all the wrong toys Ive been using

  • meghan redinger

    This is my first time even reading of your blogs! and you definitely have a different eye for product review. keep it up! You seem to have came so far and gave a lot of insight to many people

  • annastasia

    You have impacted my life in way more ways than I can pontificate on. I will always have a special place for you in my heart, and your recommendations have been the guiding force for what I have tried to put in my vagina. Your posts are always welcome in my inbox and readers, and I love the fact that you take on toxic toys and help educate – that is so needed and I have so much respect for you because of it! Also, as a fellow pansexual, poly female, I love your posts in general, especially about Aerie/coming out, etc.

    I only wish I had the support system/friend group that you have, because I desperately need more sex positive folks in my life (and my local munches SUCK). However, I will quit fangirling and summarize this with a few short words: You are amazing, and keep on keeping on!

  • Stephanie F

    Just finding your site, and I’m a bit in awe. Lots of good stuff here. I know what I’ll be reading for the next week!

  • JewelsMax

    Thank you for letting us be a part of this and for being such an important part of my own sexual journey!

  • lunascope

    I don’t remember how long ago it was that I found this blog. I just know that my mom linked me to a site about toxic sex toys, and I somehow found my way here. Your humor, your rightful indignation, and your honesty is what made me keep reading. I probably said this last year, but you’re still the only blog I read and definitely the only one I read every post of. Around my house, you are known by name. I don’t even have to say “that sex toy blogger.” Just “Piph” works.

    Thank you again for all the hard work you’ve put into this blog and into the sex toy industry in general. Because of people like you, companies aren’t able to get away with the bullshit they used to. Pthalate free material is so much more commonplace, and it’s really because of bloggers busting their asses to make sure that we’re safe.

  • Sammie Lewis

    Your story is wonderful, and I’m probably a little bit jealous of you! The idea of getting to make a living doing what you love, and being inspired to do so in college, reading how it changed your life, makes me smile. I wish you another decade of success (and another, and another, and so on.)

  • Liz Swan

    I’m just discovering your blog, but I’m swallowing it whole daily. My life in bdsm and polyamory is in full swing and I love playing with people, but with your blog I’m starting to explore playing with toys. A new metamour suggested your blog and I’m enjoying the new sense of self discovery. Keep up the great work!

  • So, on some level I knew that this takes a TON of work. (By “this” I mean sex blogging/reviewing, more specifically how you do it.) And in my small way, I’ve experienced it, too, but reading about your journey over ten years, really highlighted the amount of work, energy, passion and perseverance that have been infused into this space you’ve created. And, you’ve set the standard in many ways. It’s incredibly daunting and inspiring in equal measure.

  • erabat

    This was such an amazing read, thank you so much for sharing yourself and your journey with us! It would be easy, in a way, for you just to post reviews, but instead you invite us into your life and make this about so much more than just the review <3

  • Marita Berry

    I didn’t know how it all started, but I am glad you got that major, because you write really really well, in a way that keeps your readers asking for more.

  • oliviarose88

    HAPPY TEN YEARS! You’ve been writing about sex toys longer than I’ve been having sex. I’ve recommended your blog to everyone I’ve ever banged. I hope your wisdom will guide us all for many years to come xxx

  • Alisha Roberts

    Congrats on the decade! Keep it up!

  • Marissa Aires

    Thanks for all the work you do and keeping it honest and down to earth. You’re really an inspiration to me <3

  • Annieyikes

    Love this blog. I’ve been reading for 7 years and I reccomend products based on reviews and I often try new products and see how my experience is similar or different than the review! Thanks so much for all of the time and resources you put in this blog for readers like me!

  • Avidreader

    Congratulations on 10 years of success! I’ve been a follower for 5 years and sad I’ve missed out on the first 5! Here’s to another 10!

  • in_the_forests_of_the_night

    Congratulations on 10 years! It’s charming to see your growth over the posts, and it’s so helpful that you keep up the old old posts for those of us that are not in the same place yet

  • Kim Dias

    I love the reassurance that the unexpected will happen and that you don’t always need to know 100% where your life is leading because it’s going to take you down weird roads. I’m currently in university and it’s very comforting. It’s hard and it’s stressful — but god, graduating and making my decisions after that? That’s going to be even harder and stressfuller. Reading this? It probably wasn’t your intentional, but I found it ridiculously reassuring. Thank you.

  • siobhan21

    I only discovered your blog about two years ago but in that short time it has been so helpful. Such a source information and support. It help give me the confidence to really explore in a way that I’d been reluctant to do before and I thank you for that.

  • wavedash

    Congratulations! 10 years is a fantastic run, here’s to 10 more!

  • Wendy

    Grateful for the things I’ve learned here.

  • Ant

    I’ve only followed your blog for a few years so far, but I’m hoping that it’ll continue for many more. It’s probably one of the few blogs where I read every word of every post!

  • Sarah

    I found your blog at the best possible time in my life. I’ve learned a lot about myself and my own sexuality since I began following you.

  • Gamefreakgeekgirl

    You are amazing. Thanks for your work!

  • Cassandra

    Congrats on your successful first decade! XD

  • Valerie Hartnett

    I’ve been with you for 5ish years now and I’m so glad I have been! You’ve done so much for my self-confidence and the good of my ladybits!

  • Queer Fridge Ghost

    congratulations on 10 years and what sounds like an incredible journey! thank you for sharing your life and knowledge with us.

  • LD

    I hope you know how much your healthy attitude towards the human body, partnered sex in all shapes and forms, and diddlin’ the skittle (or whatever parts one has) have positively affected me and all your readers.

    Cheers to 10 more years of judging toys with your discerning vagina and writing about it!

  • Louly McButter

    You’ve accomplished more in ten years than most people can say they’ve done in their entire lifetime. I’m sure you’re responsible for a myriad of self-loving, confident, shameless women on this planet and for that, I thank you. I have always admired and appreciated your honesty. Happy anniversary!

  • Glumbumble

    You led me to my first high end vibrator. You were the first sex blogger I can across that I actually enjoyed reading. I loved that you were down to earth and not trying to titilate or throwing the word “pussy” around constantly.

  • Cougart

    Your blog was one of my first references on sex toys, back when I found out those existed. To be honest, I didn’t know there were more than just dildos back then (my sex education wasn’t bad as in I knew what contraceptives were and such, but sex for pleasure? never mentioned). The cute cat and overall approachable reviews (as in I could tell it was really a person and not someone a company paid to review their product) are huge factors on why I didn’t close it right away (one computer in the living room was not the ideal setup for a teenager trying to sneakily learn about sex toys).

    I’m really grateful to finding your blog, especially when I did it. I’m still not that experienced with sex toys (ended up failing highschool twice and only went to college in 2015, and no way in hell I’d buy anything when my parents could find it), but your blog makes it WAY easier in picking which toy to get (can’t get many, no money or were to hide them… hope to change both those things soon). So really, thanks for turning your hobby into your job! 😉

  • queenofzan

    As a nonbinary trans person dating another trans person, I really really REALLY appreciate your dedication to gender neutral language and recommending things to people with certain genitals and preferences, instead of just flattening us all down to “women” and “men”. It really means the world to me. And I feel like it’s made a big difference when it comes to my willingness to try toys (and sex acts!), and just the process of getting to know my body better to know what toys to get has made me appreciate it so much more. As someone who used to curse my vagina (and unthinkingly include my vulva in that), and who now unabashedly loves my vulva (even if I’m still not keen on that uterus and its wiles), thank you so much for being inclusive and informative. For ten years! Woo!

  • CaptainMeow

    I love this blog post, the way you articulate your journey the past 10 years, discovering yourself while carving out a name in this industry. I don’t think many can say they do this in their careers! Very glad for you 🙂

  • Publicly Chagrined

    Your blog has been very useful to me over the years so I’m glad that you decided to start it. I can’t personally really imagine doing something that involves so much self-motivation and networking as a job, haha, so I salute you.

  • Bianca Palmisano

    Continually awed and gratified to get to watch your journey and incredible success with this work from a distance. Thank you for 10 years of insightful, dedicated, and hilarious writing.

  • Red Draco

    Congrats

  • Derek Koshinski

    Every time I see your posts or just think about your website, a flow of sex positive giddy energy comes over me. It is just makes happy when I think that such an awesome and warm and snarky place exists on the internet and in the world!

  • Coreen Montagna

    So very exciting, congratulations!

  • Celeste Thayer

    Congrats on 10 years! I’ve been enjoying your blog for some time; I admire your mission and vision and omg, the reviews! SO helpful.

  • I’ve been following this blog for about four years now and I’ve enjoyed every second of it!

  • Not Enough G

    it is such an interesting journey you’ve been through, and with such amazing results ¬¬

  • DEVIANT

    It is so crazy reading about things that seem like just yesterday be things from your past. It’s been wonderful and informative to follow you over the years and it means even more now knowing how it all began and developed. I am inspired seeing how you developed the absolute perfect niche for yourself.

  • Freudian Unicorn

    Is that a NY Toy Collective pink-lemonade-colored dildo in the top picture, because I have one just like it and it’s by far, one of my favorites. A good choice for a “Happy Anniversary!”

  • Molly Reuben

    when i was looking for information for my first sex toy, this blog was an invaluable resource. thanks so much!!!

  • Amy LV

    I can’t believe it’s been 10 years! And this giveaway is unprecedented – you’ve changed my sex life and so many others’ too!

  • Megan Wehr

    Congrats for 10 years! What an amazing journey! I cant wait to sit and watch the years to come 🙂

  • Jimbi

    Congrats on 10 years of the blogging

  • Camille

    I have lost count of how many friends I’ve sent your way, never feeling ashamed, and always feeling proud to share the humour and wisdom your posts always have.

  • Happy ten years! It’s been a pleasure and a joy following you for the past 3? 4? I’m glad I found you and your discerning vagina. I’ve learned a lot and my own vagina has benefitted. Cheers.

  • kamron thurmond

    I’m not gonna lie this comment is for the contest entry. I did read the post though, and now I have 3 more articles read because my interest got peaked by embedded links.

  • Daniel Saleh

    I’ve only followed your blog for a year or so, but I’m gonna level with you. Your blogging style – straightforward, punchy, yet avoiding the sleazy sort of recommendations that some other sex toy bloggers use – is what got me to move away from the bargain-basement sex toys and believe that the nicer toys are worth using. If nothing else, it’s provided a great deal of highly-appreciated birthday presents. (DILDOS FOR EVERYONE!)

  • Bi Bo

    You’re great! (and your cats too) …your reviews always make me laugh. I just wish you posted some more reviews of films, I enjoyed the ones you suggested!

  • ophira

    Wow, ten years! Your blog never fails to be inspiring and helpful!

  • hopeandmemory

    I’ve been reading your blog since 2010, I think. I really respect your opinions and even though everyone’s body responds differently to any given toy, I honestly won’t buy something if you think it’s trash. I’m so glad there are bloggers like you out there calling out shitty, sexist marketing and unsafe materials and just being very blunt about whether or not something is worth your time and/or money. It’s refreshing that you’re not here to blow smoke up anyone’s ass (or vagina, I guess, lol). Thank you so much for doing this important work!!!

    Also, I just gotta say…

    “I remember the sense of scandal I felt as I went to my college mailroom to pick up my first real vibrator.”

    Wasn’t it terrifying??? It felt so subversive and also like somehow everyone could see through the nondescript cardboard packaging and they would KNOW. And then about five years ago I ordered a Mona (THE GOAT!!!) and had that sent to my mom’s house, which was also a little anxiety inducing.

  • calliope

    I’m so glad you started this journey, so that we can all start our own journeys with you as a guide!

  • Ella

    Can I just say I love all the cat pics!? XD Thank you for all you do. I don’t think my life would be the same without your blog.

  • Mara Caibo

    happy birthday 🙂

  • isabel

    i LOVE this

  • Jeanp

    Congrats on 10 years

  • Reli Gutierrez

    It’s amazing and inspiring reading your journey. Thank you so much for sharing everything you have with your readers and looking forward to what will come in the next 10 years 🙂

  • Kate Harlow

    Happy Anniversary!

  • Whett Whistle

    We plan to dig much further into your reviews as we try to grow our own collection and find our likes and dislikes. This is such an amazing resource. Thanks for being strong enough to put it out there.

  • k w a n a ✨

    This was a very interesting read! (Over 600 toys, fisting, I’m so overwhelmed!) but in a good way. I think it’s wonderful that you shared this journey. I felt like I had taken it with you from the detailed descriptions. (I’m still stuck on over 600 toys.. I thought I was special for having two lol!) I’m not an expert on the sex industry, I’ve only done one internship but it is always an industry that has interested me and helped me how to care for myself sexually. I had never known how many things I was doing wrong and how many harmful ideas I had absorbed until people like you shared your knowledge and made it easy for people like me to be more open minded. I appreciate it very much that you found a way to educate people in a non traditional way and you are also doing what you love. Keep up the good work!

  • Alluring Ali

    Congrats on 10 years! Some of the toys I read that you experienced looked amazing. I also did read the ones that sucked. You are trooper for getting through those. I especially remember the spiky vibrator one. I use to have that one thinking it would feel awesome. I was so wrong, had to throw it away. I laughed when I saw you didn’t like it either. One toy you might want to try is called Iroha Yuki. It is amazing clit vibe with a bit of a nub for some slight penetration. It’s my new favorite toy! Cheers!

  • Emma S

    I’ve been reading your blog since my freshman year of college in 2010. I don’t read every post, but I have read a lot of them. I have no idea how I ever stumbled across your blog in the first place, but it had a huge impact on me. I didn’t have a single sex toy at the time, now I have a small handful. You opened up the world of sex toys to me and saved me from ever buying a gross jelly toy.

    Thank you for writing this blog and being snarky and hilarious.

  • milys

    I remember years ago when I bought my first toy – just googling for something affordable with discreet packaging (and the resulting great time when it was never delivered and they claimed they had indeed shipped it…). The info here on reputable sellers and body safe toys and maintenance is so important and I wish I’d found it back then. I always recommend this blog to friends when they’re shopping or have questions.

  • Lauryn Christy

    This was so well-written! I relate a lot to what you said about taking gender studies course in school, and how that opened up a whole new world for me and made me a better person. I’ve often been the source of advice for friends when it comes to all things sex and sex toys, even though I’m not as experienced as many of them in the sex area. I think you’ve just convinced me to sign up for your online class. Happy Anniversary!

  • Shari A. Jessie

    What a journey!

    I’ve been riding this wave with you since late 2009 and it’s amazing how far you’ve come. You diligence and dedication are incomparable!

    Thank you!

  • I love this story of how you started. your an amazing writer!

  • Carmen Braun

    Love this page and your reviews soooo much! I’ve been loyally following for only half those years, but it’s been great! Can’t wait for the next 10 🙂

    Also, it’s nice to see everyone starts somewhere, some of those early posts are quite something! Glad you settled on the style and such that you did though, it’s really awesome!

  • Azru Iceheartt

    I love the fact that you are a fantastic snark (I love reading your reviews of bad sex toys) and that you’ve opened so many poeple’s eyes (not just mine) about toys, and about their quality and content. You are awesome.

  • Ariane

    10 years already? Wow, that’s a Long time. It was really an interesting read to see how you got to where you are now. I can totally relate to your younger self, going to college and studying English literature, without even imagining doing what you do now. Personally, I’m still studying, not entirely sure if I’ll really do what I’m training to do right now. It will be interesting to see where fate leads me to…

  • C. Per.

    How’d I Only just find out about this?!

  • Rose Helen

    You are an amazing person. Just as a whole an amazing person and your blog is the main reason I have such an active and enjoyable singles sex live! I have and always will appreciate what you have done and what you are doing.

    However, I think the main thing I got from your 10 years was a sense of hope. Not about or for my sex life but for my personal. It is so inspiring to hear how you got to where you are because that means there is still hope for chasing dreams. Because of you I want to the East con, meet a bunch of amazing people and now am able to write semi professionally. Your 10 year reflection gives me even more hope that some day I’ll be able to turn that semi into a full time career! Thank you <3

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    Oh man, ten years! I have so much reading to catch up on, and I couldn’t be more excited!!

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